DH just doesn't listen sometimes
DH half ticked me off last night. We are going away for the 3 day weekend on Memorial Day, taking his mom with us since she is visiting. I had mentioned that was exH weekend with DD and I may not to get her since I am getting her Mother’s Day weekend, which is his weekend as well. I said I needed to double check with exH to make sure he can keep DD on Monday too since we wouldn’t be coming back until then. ExH works the weekends that he doesn’t get DD so he is not able to switch weekends. So last night I mentioned that I still had to talk to exH about it. DH said oh, don’t say anything yet, I said something to SD about going but she has to ask her mom, so I don’t know if she’s going yet. I asked what that had to do with DD going? He said oh, I thought you weren’t going to bring DD if SD couldn’t come. I was like, uh, no….I specifically remember saying that I didn’t think I would be able to get DD and that it wouldn’t be a bad thing to not take any kids and have just an adult weekend. I said that I certainly didn’t make DD going contingent upon SD going. WTF!! He doesn’t listen at all. So, I talked to exH this morning about it and he is okay with me taking DD that weekend too, because he is going to take her during the week on his couple of days off to make up for the weekend. (It’s so nice to get along with the ex). I’m being childish though and not telling DH that DD is definitely going because then he will try hard to talk SD into going. I really would like to take a vacation without the drama that comes along with SD.
Do you have a diagram for all
Do you have a diagram for all this? 'cuz I'm confused.
I know the feeling. I hate
I know the feeling. I hate being in the same town as sd11, let aloone the same car, same hotel room, etc. She is addicted to food, so "Daaaaaadieieieieie, I'm huuuunnnngrrryyy, sniff " all the way there, and when shes not trying to be overfed, she is talking and I just want to say stfu, but i just crank up the stereo. Dadddiieieieieie, my ears hurt, whimper"
I will go on "family trips", but I take so much ativan I can hardly stay awake. BUT, I DO AND I ALEAYS WILL take mini-vacations with my BD because she is a lot of fun, doesnt b*tch, moan, whine. My dh doesnt like it and if Sd finds out, sometimes someone slips, she pouts. Pouty pout pout. I have told her to ask her Dadddddieieieie to take her somewhere because Im sure he'd like that. There's no way in hell he's ever going to take that brat anywhere with him...why spend the time and money on something he can't enjoy. I hate being a step parent, I hate having skids, I hate the BM's interference, I hate that it's a game to Dh to piss me up while giving BM false hope, just to watch her crumble with a reunion that's NEVER going to happen. I hate my whole life since I have been married to my Dh. I even hate him!
I can see his confusion .. if
I can see his confusion .. if I understand correctly, you said you didn't think you would be able to get DD and that was okay because an adult's weekend would be fun .. but I don't know if you clearly told him that DD going had nothing to do with whether or not SD got to go.
Men can be very simple and they're generally not mind readers. If you don't want SD to go, then tell him. But be prepared for him to be upset that it's okay your kid goes and his doesn't.
Nope, you're right, I didn't
Nope, you're right, I didn't say that during the initial conversation, so that's my fault. I guess I figured me saying that an adult weekend without the kids would be nice kinda of meant that lets go without the kids...lol. That's what I get for assuming, however! I still don't know where he got it that I said DD going would be dependent upon SD going.
Who the heck knows what runs
Who the heck knows what runs through their man-brains! I have found over the years that if you want DH to know something, or to do something, you just have to say it. My DH doesn't read my mind or follow hints or pick up on slight suggestions. I just have to blurt it out
I don't have kids of my own, so our adult-only weekends are usually pretty easy to plan. We're going to New Orleans for an extended weekend this week! It's our last getaway until the skids come live with us for the summer at the end of the month
Oh yay....that will be fun! I
Oh yay....that will be fun!
I know, poor guy, sometimes what seems at least clearly implied to me is not so to him. I have to remmber that...lol!