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Submitted by Just human on Thu, 03/21/2013 - 9:59pm

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Ok SD14 posts these sappy I love you, I forgive you (WTF?!?), I'm sorry blah blah blah posts on FB to my DH, her BM and her SD (married to BM). This is an effort to ostracize me, I know and my DH is asking for advice on how to respond. He hasn't liked the post or responded. SD14 stopped talking to me for no reason when we had a good relationship because of BM. DH has yet to address with SD14 how she has treated me. Any thoughts?

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Submitted by Step-Volgirl on Fri, 03/22/2013 - 11:35am

I agree with CheriWilson's "I think DH should continue to ignore the FB posts. He might tell SD that he will talk to her about anything she wants to talk about but he is not going to do it over FB and SD needs to stop posting personal family stuff."

I know sometimes, blatantly ignoring something can lead to more trouble, so if necessary, comment "Noted. We'll discuss this next time we see (or talk) to each other".

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Submitted by Just human on Thu, 03/21/2013 - 10:31pm

There is a big geographic distance and he would never be given her pw. I like the idea of not responding and him talking to her about not posting personal family stuff. I will pass the advice along for his consideration. Thank you!

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Submitted by Cocoa on Fri, 03/22/2013 - 7:09am

delete his fb account. all facebook does is stir up drama. my dh and i had to because of it. i don't know about you, but i've had a belly-full of skid and bm drama and this is an easy way to get rid of at least half of it.

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Submitted by Just human on Fri, 03/22/2013 - 9:02am

You are so right esp about the defriending part! I have totally accepted months ago that I don't have a relationship with the SD. Really good riddance I don't care about her at all. Even if she one day wanted a relationship I would not because I know the BM is speaking through her. So HELL F-ING NO will I have a relationship with her. If she visits I will stay somewhere else or schedule a work related trip.

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Submitted by Just human on Fri, 03/22/2013 - 9:34pm

^^^i like that idea of apologizing to me! Funny thing we have NEVER had a negative interaction and I'm the one signaled out. It's her way of trying to push me away. It's a compliment really of how much of a threat she thinks I am to her and the crazy BM.

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Submitted by Just human on Fri, 03/22/2013 - 8:58am

We definitely do not have BM as a friend though she has tried multiple times. DH said he won't respond to SD's post and said she is trying to push me away from him. We share the account and he needs it for work but we should be able to block her posts or something. So far it's been one way for DH to figure out where in the country his kids are. BM is constantly bouncing them between 2 states. DH is out of the country. Honestly I've disengaged from it and am not bothered by it but didn't know what to tell my DH when asked what he should do with this BS message.