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Submitted by hey-big-momma on Mon, 02/04/2013 - 7:12pm

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I have been a step parent for over 5 years now and it has had its ups and downs...but some of the things I have read on the posts here ( :jawdrop: ) on this site make what my husband and I have gone through look like a VACATION. I understand that this site is to vent, but I cannot understand some of the negativity that is associated with the "steps." I am fortunate enough to have step children who not only have known me since they were young (5, 4, and 2), but who also respect me. I did not realize this until recently when my husband pointed out that the reason why I do not have problems with them "acting out" is because they fear my disapproval. I find that interesting to say the least...I never knew that before last week! I thought that maybe my short story would be a breath of fresh air for some who constantly read negative posts. I just hope that it does not change. Smile

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Submitted by momsome on Mon, 02/04/2013 - 11:51pm

I must agree when I first got on this site. I thought it would be something different then what it is. I even had to show my boyfriend all of the women on here that would say things like "I hate my SK or I hate this or that and show him how thankful he should be that his boys (My Boys) and I get a long. It feels like I am a mom and they feel like they are my kids. They tell me that they hate when I call them my step son's and they wish I were their real mom. The sad part about it is their mom was a pretty good mom. She just has a new boyfriend that treats the boys like S**T and they have lost all respect for her. She of course hates me and talks about me every time they visit probably every day for that matter. They always ask me will me and their mom every get a long and I never know what to say. I am nice of course but that is a question among other's that I will always have a hard time answering. I am just thankful and feel for the ladies on here that have such a hard time. I have no problem with my SKs I mean at first...OMG. But now and after over 3 years its completely different. Funny part is when I first met my boyfriend he only had 50/50 now we have full custody 9 months out of the year and then in the summer we see the boys every other weekend.!!...I feel the tears coming already and I hope I can handle not being a mom during the summer that's when I will really need support!!....but to all of the SMOM's out there who are lucky enough to feel like us and what we have be THANKFUL things could be worse...you dont believe me check out this site...its crazy!!!!

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Submitted by SMof2Girls on Tue, 02/05/2013 - 11:14am

I agree .. my situation isn't as terrible as some others' here. I completely acknowledge that.

It's a pro and a con .. I come and read about all of the horrible things that happen to some of these people, and it makes me VERY grateful that my situation isn't as bad as it could be. But it's also disheartening when you're looking for advice, and the majority of the response is "leave", "disengage", etc ..

I appreciate your positive post Smile