DH's response to letter I wrote him

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So I wrote my DH a letter yesterday.. I know it sounds strange/childish/impersonal but I have been trying to talk to him about our issues for a LONG time now and every time, we end up yelling and arguing and I get nowhere so I figured I will try to put it on paper and he can just read it. The letter pretty much told him I am at my breaking point and if he does not change NOW, I WILL leave. I have an apartment picked out and I am prepared to go. I have been at my mom’s for 5 days anyway and have been fine (I was sick with a bad kidney infection and he wouldn’t take care of me so my mom did). Of course this is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do—I am not pretending it’s not—and even though I love DH, I love myself too and I know in my heart I deserve better. I have written many posts about what DH has put me through so I won’t write it all out here. His response to the letter was a text that said “You’re f’ing nuts, I can’t wait to see what kind of guy you end up with, I hope God is available.” So he is totally not seeing that he is doing anything wrong here and thinks God is the only man better than him? Oh boy..

I guess that is the answer,

I guess that is the answer, then. You poured your heart out and in return he threw it down and stomped on it. Doesn't sound like the type of guy *I* would want to be married to.

(((HUGS)))

that would be it for me. i

that would be it for me. i would be getting my things and never having anything to do with that narcissistic asshole again. he is the one who is going to have trouble, not you. i have an ex who was a lot like that and even told me "i deserve an angel straight from heaven". :O pretty odd thing to say since he's an atheist. i told him perfection does not exist. he will never find a perfect woman. and even if there was one, she would want NOTHING to do with him!

The last time I was really

The last time I was really down with a sprained back and on muscle relaxers/pain pills, my DH asked me if I was hungry. I said yes. He asked if soup sounded good. I said yes. He said while you are up will you make me some too? I guess that's what I get for marrying a mama's boy. Sigh.....

OMG that sounds EXACTLY like

OMG that sounds EXACTLY like my DH. While I was sick (well I still am, but getting better) with my kidney infection, I said I wanted a sandwich from this local place near my house and he said he wants a cheese steak. The hell?? What is wrong with these men??

Sometimes they are so

Sometimes they are so ridiculously selfish that you just have to laugh. Because murder is illegal.

He's done. Focus on getting

He's done.

Focus on getting better and doing what is best for you.

I'd help you move....honestly

I'd help you move....honestly I would.

Maybe we should organize

Maybe we should organize flash mobs to help each other. Transmit when you are going and what help you need. Can you just see a big pack of SM/SDs roll up, pack up the sister/brother who has had enough and roll out of there without a word (afterall what is there left to say in these situations)? If anybody tries to give us lip, we all take turns wailing on their heads.

I'm sorry you are going through this and wish you well. Do what you need to do to get yourself some peace in your life, you deserve it! I hope you go on to live a happy skid-free/stupid-spouse free life. That is really the best revenge. Let them all rot.

The flash mob idea is

The flash mob idea is awesome!! Thank you all for your supportive words.

Reading this a year after I

Reading this a year after I left my fiancee makes me see more clearly why I left and confirms my decision to leave. He tried to contact me in August and since then has asked for my friendship. Please, take care of yourself. Love yourself and donot abandon your health, well being and peace of mind. You deserve all the love and care in the world . And YES there are men out there who will care for you and love you and make you a priority. I love this quote from Suzie Orman:"No woman can control her destiny if she does not give TO herself as much as she gives OF herself" .

Wow....just wow. You're DH

Wow....just wow. You're DH has a huge ego. I'm sorry that was the extent of his response to you pouring out your heart.

I'm glad you're in the midst of your exit. It sounds like your DH doesn't see his own faults. Only yours.

(((christinen))) We're close to a new year and a new beginning for you.

^^^^THIS! So very sorry.

^^^^THIS! So very sorry. You're much better off without this one.

What an ass! My exbf would

What an ass! My exbf would say some of the meanest, most insensitive things when we were arguing. I figured out that he was always thinking those things, he just allowed them to come out when he was angry. So the rest of the time, he was just a phony... Believe someone when they show you who they really are!

I'm so sorry christinen

I'm so sorry christinen You know, there are many men out there who would love the chance to treat a woman like a queen...I think you should try to find one of those. Of course that would only be after you have given yourself a lot of time to recover and heal from such a toxic relationship with Mr. Douchebag }:)

{{{Hugs}}} to you sweetie, remember all the support you have here!

Thank you all so much for the

Thank you all so much for the responses! Unfortunatly I am going to have to wait until after the holidays are over before I can get the apartment just because DH has pretty much drained me of all my money and I need to save all over again. I make decent money but when you are supporting yourself, a manchild, and a kid who is not yours, it's hard to save. I told him I will be canceling his car insurance, cell phone, everything else I pay for him because I need the money for myself.