I have been a full time mum to my 10 yo step daughter for 4 years but have been with her father since she was 3 and I am so sick and tired of being stuck with this child. I look after her from after school and do the cooking and general stuff for her but I have been battling with my partner to be more involved with the day to day stuff when he gets in from work.
She is not an easy child is very behind at school( I refuse to take responsibility for her education) but she has a very immature babyish attidute ( has recently started calling her father da da) she witters on and on about nonsense which I constantly keep telling her to stop it, if I don't remind her she won't remember to get a drink! This has been going on for ages and I am sick of it, she will put dirty socks back on for school from the day before so therefore in one way or another I am constantly saddled and having to sort out or correct this child.
Her mother hardly sees her so I feel guilty that I am going to let her down if I decide to stop doing these things for her but I am getting no satisfaction of being this child's nag. When she does see her mum it's ball parks and macdonalds and good times.
I have told my OH that I am sick of being saddled with her and he understands I have told him he can cook her meals and she will just have to wait until he gets in but I have a 17 month old so I will be cooking for him anyway. I must come accross as horrible but this child isn't mine and I am resentful of being her skivvy and the bad cop.
I have started backing off a bit and my heart of hearts tells me to do as little as possible for her and leave the responsibility with her dad it it's so difficult when she comes to me first constantly. But got my sanity something has to change. Sorry for the rant.