I've been in my step daughters life for almost 4 years and my husband and I got married and had a baby this year and are having another. My sd does not listen to me, she lies and ignores me, talks back, says very inappropriate things, says I'm not raising her, her mom told her I'm not her mom so she now says that ur not my momma stuff, she altogether undermines me and does not see me as an authority figure. My husband feels like I'm mistreating her by telling her to stop this do that dont do this so on so he has told me before that she is him and her mommas child not mine leave things to them I have nothing to do with it he has told me if she does something tell him instead of saying something to her so really I have no control and he doesn't feel like her talking to me stupid or disrespecting me or not listening is an issue she has even told me she doesn't listen toe bc she doesn't have to. I stay away when she is here bc I will Not be disregarded. Now he is saying Ii need to treat her like my own but still have no say. He says I'm wrong for not considering her my child bc we married but still I have no say. I I'm at a loss. I he doesn't want to change any discipline but wants me to deal with it smiling. HELP!