BM LOVES to try to control DH by getting SS13 all worked up and having him call and text vile nasty things about DH and me. DH has put his foot down and makes sure to be available when SS13 calls, but tells him that if he yells or says mean things, the phone call is over until he can be respectful. This is BM's usual way to punish DH. She'll get mad about something and then get SS13 to call his dad and tell him off. She has literally used him to demand that DH divorce me "or else SS13 will never see him again". Even when DH says that it is court ordered that he have SS13, BM tells him that she won't force SS13 to visit if he doesn't want to. Fine - I don't want him here if he is going to be a little ass anyways.

BM tried to pull this last night and DH read her the riot act - telling her to stay away from his family (me and my DD3 - BM LOST it when he told her this) and to stop filling SS13's head with nonsense. SS13 told DH for the 50th time last night that he never wants to see him again if he doesn't divorce me. DH let BM and SS13 know that SS13 wasn't allowed at our house until he fully apologizes to me and DH for his behavior. BM was recently dumped by her latest boyfriend so she is on the prowl again and I guess she realized that her part in this behavior wasn't benefiting her anymore. BM sent a text to ME through DH's phone saying that everything would be fine and DH could have visitation with SS13 and her horrible nephew if I was nice to her. LOL! You've got to be kidding me. I told her that her nephew was never coming to our house agan and that SS13 wouldn't be either until he apologized. She went crazy, because she wants a babysitter for her horrible nephew so that she can find her next victim on the weekends. She told me that she was "the mother of a thoughtfully concieved son" and I was the stepmom, which is a non-entity, and that she would talk to DH about the horrible nephew and have him come over. Guess what bitch? Not when the stepmom owns our house. You can talk until your face turns blue, but I am still never allowing him over here. DH can visit him in their town if she is so worried about them spending time together. But of course, thats not really what it is about. She will rant and rave about how horrible I am, how she will never allow the kids around me, and threaten restaining orders, and then when she wants to have the weekend off, demand that she dump her nephew on us at MY house. Not happening and DH is totally fine with it. I guess her weekends just got alot more full - just the thought of having to deal with her nephew 24\7 makes me cringe, lol. Have fun BM!