Depends on your state. You do not have a legal doc, but there MAY be a way for BM to request it. In my state, CS can be ordered through college. My DH just had CS formally stopped, but if his son wanted to go to college, CS would have continued, possibly for 4 more years.

I know that in some states, when the kid turns 18, the CS is over, but not in other states. Also, in our case, if DH's son decides to go to college soon, BM can initiate a new claim, and have CS restarted. This was NOT something DH agreed upon with BM/during the divorce. It is considered standard here, unless there are certain circumstances. My DH does not make a whole lot of money, either.

ETA: Commuting makes no difference here-CS would be the same, and continue to go to BM if the kid wants to go to school.

ETA: We are in the same state, so you may have to pay through college. I have heard it is very difficult here to have CS stopped when the kid graduates/turns 18 and wants to go to college. In our case, the kid barely made it through high school and refuses to do anything productive, so college is probably never going to happen. Also, there cannot be a break-if the kid graduates and wants to go to college NEXT year, that is considered a break from school, as far as I know, meaning CS would not have to be paid. I do not know how long a break is formally considered to be.

New Jersey is a state than can order child support and college tuition. I know a man who is still legally forced to pay for his 23 year old son which is absolutely ridiculous.

New Jersey has a weird 14 point criteria chart used to determine if and what the parents can pay for college/support. I suggest you speak to an attorney well versed in family law in your area.

She IS probably assuming, and she may be allowed to continue to get it, bc from what we were just told, DH would have had to keep paying CS if his son went to college. College costs were not discussed, and I do not know what would have happened with that. We could never, ever afford that.

How come divorced kids can force a parent to pay for their college, this I never understood. A kid from a non divorced family can't force a parent to pay for college.

http://www.mrcustodycoach.com/blog/require-non-custodial-parent-pay-coll...

Many states end CS at 18 or at high school graduation; whichever comes later.

Hope this helps.

We have nothing in the CS that says he owes for college. In our state it can be required. We have no child support for either kid now because each parent has one child and they agreed to no support if the other would stop fighting for the kid. So we have in the agreement nothing after 18. Insurance we have to carry on both until 19. BM pushed that and DH conceded to get custody of SS.

Every state is different. But, not having a formal agreement is going to bite you back. Everything he has done above traditional support will be seen as a gift. Get a formal agreement.

I've only heard of CS being ordered upon the unusually rich in California although even then it may have been accepted by the payer of support as a part of negotiations.

Under normal circumstances for normal people I would not worry about it and one escape could be to leave the state. Easier to do on the east coast than the west.

The whole concept is silly as someone previously mentioned if there were no divorce the kid is out of luck.

I've only heard of CS being ordered upon the unusually rich in California although even then it may have been accepted by the payer of support as a part of negotiations.

Under normal circumstances for normal people I would not worry about it and one escape could be to leave the state. Easier to do on the east coast than the west.

The whole concept is silly as someone previously mentioned if there were no divorce the kid is out of luck.

Lucky us, we get to pay CS for SD through college graduation, or age 21, whatever comes first. It's f*cking bullish*t. Our bios won't have a $700 monthly stipend when they're in college...they're on their own unless we win the lottery. The kicker? DH's original CS order stated through age 18. BM just filed for the extra FOUR YEARS of CS a month ago...SD is six months from turning 18!! FML. It just never ends, does it? SO HAPPY that my DH gets to miss out on the formative years of our bios so he can either work sh*t tons of OT or get a second job for the ingrate. SD will likely be emotionally blackmailed by her BPD BM to hand over the CS each month, even though she won't be living in BM's home, and BM won't contribute a dime towards her college anyway!!

If someone would have told me that this would be how our lives would turn out, I would never have believed it. It's just un-f*cking-real. Listen up men!! Don't think with the wrong head, or your ONS will turn into a life sentence. My DH doesn't even get the benefits of a loving relationship with his daughter. She PAS'd out a long time ago. It's almost the same as us paying for a neighbor's kid to go to college, while our bios suffer.

It depends on your state. In our case if SS attends college then CS continues until his 22nd b-day with CS going directly to SS after his 18th birthday instead of to my DW. That is a state stipulation and not an element of our CO.

The fun part .... he is in school and is in the USAF who pays for his school and the SpermIdiot would still be on the hook for CS even though SS is self supporting. }:)

But, we raised our kid (my SS-20) to be a young man of character and he will not collect his rightful benefit from his idiot SpermDonor. The SpermClan has guilted him out of it by playing the "if you make your dad pay CS you will be taking food out of your youngers siblings mouths". My perspective is that the SpermIdiot going on to have three more also out of wedlock spawn by two more womb donors is not my Skids problem and if I were my SS I would have the idiot father paying every penny possible.

But, my son is a better man than I.

Leaving the state wouldn't help us because BM and SD live here, so all court docs and proceedings have to be filed in this jurisdiction. According to our attorney, DH WILL be on the hook for CS until SD's 22nd birthday, because "that's just how it works now". Awesome.

We are hoping to be able to add a few stipulations to the final CS order: a) SD MUST be enrolled in school on a full-time basis, b) SD must maintain a "C" or better GPA, c) BM must also be ordered to pay CS to SD while she's in school (why is it only dad's job if SD isn't living with BM?), d) DH and BM "switch off" on claiming SD at tax time (if SD isn't residing with BM), e) SD must provide proof of full-time school enrollment EVERY term, as well as a transcript of her grades showing all C's or better, f) BM must keep SD on her health insurance policy (in addition to DH's) to reduce out-of-pocket medical expenses, g) SD receives NO CS during summer break if she's not taking classes, (she should be working full-time), h) failure to do any of the above will result in an abrupt end to CS.

That's what we *hope* will happen. But then again, who knows. Honestly, we're still trying to come to terms with the fact that CS will have to be paid for four and a half more years. That came out of nowhere, and has drastically changed our future financial situation. We go to court on Tuesday....so I'll post an update on how things shake out.

If there's no formal agreement (i.e. CO), then you have nothing to worry about unless the BM realizes there's no order and takes him before the skid becomes an adult.