I really just want to get the advise of the people on this site. Please don't judge me, because I am only trying to understand my dilemma and how to make it better. I am 25 years old. I met my boyfriend who is 39 about six months ago. When I met him, he had just gone through a devoice. He told me that his ex-wife has a daughter whom he helped raised. My boyfriend came into his daughter life when she was 2 years old she is now 20. According to him, the reason why he ended the relationship was because his ex cheated on him 2 years ago. He tried to work things out with her but he could not and had to leave when the girl was 19. He also stated that the girl who was 18 at that time told him she no longer needs him in her life. His ex-wife never had a child for him due to a medical condition which he did not know about before the marriage (According to him). A month after I met him, I found out I was pregnant. He was very excited and talked me into not doing abortion. I also, do not believe in abortion so, it was easy for him to convinced me. I live in Columbus and my boyfriend lives in Toledo. He has been asking me to move to Toledo but somewhat I am not sure if that will be the right thing to do since we are not marry and my family lives in Columbus. A week ago, he was supposed to pick me up in Columbus for Toledo. All of the sudden, he changed his mind not to pick me up, because his step- daughter had called him for support. My boyfriend told me that the girl was upset because her mom is dating a man whom she does not get along with. Her mom boyfriend had been calling her to get to know her but she thinks he calls too much. She also stated that he asked for a family time which she does not like. She was also upset due to the fact that the mom and boyfriend made some food and had to call her to clean up the stove. My boyfriend told her to come over his house and gave her the address. When she came over, she moved in with all of her clothes. She stayed with him for a week and later told my boyfriend that she changed her mind to go home after a talk with mom and decided to go home. When my boyfriend told me about the situation,I asked him if he has spoken with the mom and found out what the real problem is. To me, my boyfriend opening his door to this girl and he does not get along with the mom creates more fire. .A day or two for her to cool off seem reasonable to me. However, I had no objection and respected his decision. He said he believes his stepdaughter and that she told him that the mom brain washed her about him and told him everything what the mom has been saying about him which he believes. During our conversation, my boyfriend stated that his daughter can drive in the highway and why cant I, oh my step daughter is moving out of town with her boyfriend why have you not decided to move with me yet he also stated. This happen on different occasions. This to me, is disrespectful. He should have some boundaries between his girlfriend and daughter. I was all okay with him being in her life but then I realize what kind of issues I may face like the comparisons. Also, how would she respond to me if she cant accept her mom's boyfriend. I have never been in a situation like this so I do not know how to respond or deal with such. I never responded to all his statements, because I do not want him to feel like I may not accept his stepdaughter which i really would love to get to know. I asked him if she knows about the baby coming he said no. I also asked him if he has told her about me he said no but she always here us talking while she was in the home. Since the girl came into the house he only speaks to me while driving or getting ready for work. As soon has he gets home, he takes me off the phone. am I overacting? Please help me out. I have even asked him to invite her for a dinner while I am down there but don't know yet how she will respond. I need help please. Really love my boyfriend and would love things to work out.