Would you rather be with a man who jumps the hot, dumb as fuck chicks?

I never understand the posts (and there are a LOT!) about Sm's looks/ BM's looks. I don't get it. He probably loved BM, and that's why he mated with her. Of course, NOW, the idea of loving her is nasty, or the new lady can't fathom it, so it "must" have been something else.

Personally, I would MUCH rather be with an ugly-as-hell man with a kind, loving soul over an asshole hottie anyday of the week.

ETA: to answer your question: don't ever let anyone else cause you to doubt yourself.

I know...I used to wonder that about my DH too. His ex is soooo gross. Her face is all smashed in like a pekinese dog and she, too, is fat! Lol! After the first time I saw her, I asked my dh if he lost a bet. He wasn't too amused by that comment.

I guess looks aren't everything but I was surprised to see BM for first time mostly because she is VERY different than what I expected. I'd seen a few of his post divorce ex's and they were more "along the same lines" I suppose and I guess I was expecting something different. But when I met BM--hmm. This was pre-lapband and she was nearly 300 awkward shaped pds. She had bad extensions, bad skin with a lot of scars, bug eyes but most of all was her persona. Brash, dramatic type who tends to use her hands a lot and talks loud and uses what I consider "ghetto slang". She wears ill-fitting clothes more fit for young girls who's still size 4 and under 21. Her accessories are big bicycle hoop earring types, long fake nails with designs.
At the same time though she grew up poor with a schizophrenic mother and alcoholic relatives, she is college-educated with a high paying job, large home, luxury vehicles so again it was a contrast. She is arrogant and feels she's the one 'who made it' (with the help of DH working 3 jobs to get her through college). Post Lapband and supposedly 85 pds, she is even worse with the clothes and tries even harder to be seen and heard. When others have met her or his long time friends met me, they wonder how he went from one extreme to another. I guess because she was like 18 when they met (she's 35 now), she was different. I don't know but yeah... pretty different. Pretty different.

I will say that I do not understand how my other half was BM for 5 years or how he decided to mate with her. I will say I know the back story and why he married her which was out of naive-ness and stupidity but he thought he was doing the right thing then though bringing SS into the world would help their marriage. I have seen early pics of BM and she was never super attractive but did look a lot better than she does now....hell she has gained weight and lost more looks since me and him have been together. I know it is hard looking and comparing yourself to others but remember people gain weight, depression makes people not want to take care of themselves...my BM seems like her hair has gotten greasier, her hips have grown and she just doesn't care anymore.

I personally saw BM and told my other half "upgrade" almost immediately meaning not only by looks (this was before she totally let herself go theory was she thought he would go back) but because I actually have a job and hold myself completely differently.

The only "doubt" I have is whether DH opened his eyes EVER when they were together. I mean, come on, to wake up and screw that... eeeeewwwwwwwwwww.........