Pre-Teen Birds and Bees Talk????
I have the most strangest question.....but wanted to post it here to see if I could get some insight/help from alot of female perspectives. I need to have the Pre-teen birds and bee's talk with my step daughter. We have covered the "period" subject already and body changes etc. My BIG problem is that step daughter has a hard time listening to me. She has the girls body book already but she seems too embarassed to read it. I am afraid that my information may fall on deaf ears.....but at the same time, being the medical profession...I find it very easy to give her information overload LOL. She is 12 years old...I have to have this talk with her because her Biological mom is and has not been responsible enough to talk with her about it...and what she has told her I am afraid is mis-information. Just want to talk with her in a way that she grasps the information and will actually listen to me. My step daughter is under the impression that if the information does not come from her biological mom....then it must not be true, or she does not want to believe it. Seriously looking for advice!
How much custody does your DH
How much custody does your DH have?
I know you mean well...but I would let mom and dad take this one.
DH has full custody. He and
DH has full custody. He and I both can't let her take control of this one because her Bio Mom is inept on talking to her about it.
Wow, she's 12 and this hasn't
Wow, she's 12 and this hasn't already been covered??? OMG.
All the "body changes" stuff has been covered. Good thing, considering it's probably already started.
Sex and babies? That is dad and mom's thing. Not yours. Not sure what "mis-information" you think she's been given... babies come from the stork?
Honestly, I think you have good intentions, but this really isn't your place. You do not "have to have this talk with her..."
I agree with the others above
I agree with the others above this is not your place but is her mom's and dad's responsibility. I understand you wanting to help and feel the information she has received may not be accurate but I would leave it to her to ask you and then you can answer her questions. My SS does this with me, he has the indepth talks with his dad but sometimes he has questions that he feels I can answer better when it relates to his girlfriends etc. I never would have sat him down to have this type of talk, not my place.
Thank you for posting, but I
Thank you for posting, but I do feel that it is my place to talk with her about it. Bio Mom never graduated high school.....I am a pediatric nurse.....I know who I would like to get my information from. Just saying
Dad has put this on me since
Dad has put this on me since he says that he would feel uncomfortable doing it.
I do agree with you quite a
I do agree with you quite a bit but my hubby does not see it that way. I am in a position that if I don't have the talk with her, apparently I am not a team player on Team Parent. Apparently me leaving it up to him is not an option.
Likely she's read the book
Likely she's read the book and carefully put it back exactly how she found it. Buy another book for the new subject and she'll read it also.
Even if she hasn't read it yet she will when she's ready to assimulate the subject.