Hi! I need an opinion on college costs. My stepdaugher is going to an expensive college (53k per year). We pay 11k a year towards it. The rest of the money comes from bms parents and SD will have qbout 15k a year in loans. SD recently asked for some money ($300) for the year to go towards school supplies etc. We refused because vm doesn't pay directly towards tuition..just her parents. VM then confronted my husband and laid out expenses she incurs..including car insurance, sorority dues and general cost of living expenses for the four months SD is home. She had paid about 8k towards school expenses...including a winter class and housing deposit. Bm insists that she is paying at least the 11k that we do if you add in living expenses. We feel that the grandparents contribution is not from bm but for SD directly and that until bm pays 11k we shouldn't have to pay anything extra. What do you spend for Adult college students..should we pay for anything above tuition? SD does work and pays for own books and living expenses while at school. Do you pay for haircuts and copays when they are home. Because bm pays for them and says she wants SD to save for school and not have more loans. Should we pay for any of this? The grandparents are going to pay about 80k of college costs..we are paying 44k. Bm will only pay about 20k but insists that since age pays for everything else it equals out. Bm is saying that because she is 18 she still costs money..same as she did before. We paid our xs and are done. She should have saved some of that money to use for the next four years. Not to mention SD could have gone to a cheaper school and then we wouldn't have had to pay anything because grandparents would have paid it all. Either way legally we are not responsible. Are we being fair? Is bm exaggerating costs?