Every year dh gets sd for 14 says straight during summer. dh looks forward to this all year and saves his time off at work to be home when she's here. We got her last Tuesday and were planning on leaving to the beach Thursday. sd has serious issues, she's been diagnosed with adhd & depression... but i think it's more than that. she can NOT handle any situations like a "normal" person could. she freaks out on a daily basis, throws fits worse than a two year old, slouching her back hanging her head down sticking her lip out etc etc. she's one of the meanest, most selfish people I've ever known in my whole life! all she cares about is herself.
this last week was HELL! she was terrible, every day she was being a selfish little shit. everyday she was treating everyone around her like shit, yelling, freaking out, causing sceens, mean looks, not listening, not doing anything she was told. dh usually lets most of this go, but he didn't this week. i think part of it has to do with the fact we have a month old baby and a 2yr dd... plus we were around other girls her age and the difference between them isn't even comparable. i honestly believe sd is evil. part of it is not her fault, she is a product of her mother who is THE worst person in the world, but on the other hand she's almost 11 and knows right from wrong, she just ALWAYS chooses wrong. when she's trying to be nice, and i mean trying cuz it's forced, it's totally fake and soooo hard for her. then when she treats someone like shit, she NEVER says sorry cuz she isn't, but ALWAYS acts like nothing ever happened. she tries to act all cute and sweet and talks all soft and crap. anyways dh had FINALLY had it!!! he punished her and didn't accept her behavior (still not as much as i would, but a huge improvement) i couldn't type everything that happened over the last week because it would take days and days! yesterday dh had to go into work, sd was here with me. sd threw another huge fit within 4 minutes of being awake!!! i called dh and told him, he said "im so done,i can't deal with this! I'm calling bm to come get her!" woo hoo! sd didn't want to go, but too bad little brat! so she got ready and threw another huge fit... all of these are in front of dd2 and while I'm holding baby boy. sd stormed off and waited out side for bm. then as usual sd came back smiling 10 min later like nothing ever happened!!! i wasn't having it and told her she was disrespectful to me, treated me like shit in MY OWN HOME, and she yelled again and ran off.
so now we're supposed to get her back tomorrow! i don't want to! I'm sick of her! EVERYBODY is sick of her! my parents said they're done being around her after the way she treated them! we can't go anywhere or do anything fun with her cuz she will humiliate us and make it miserable for everyone! plus I'm sick of our kids being subjected to this insanity! I'm sick of dd2 being around her, watching her throw fits and doing the same. sd tries her absolute hardest to get dd to hit or scratch her so she can freak out about something else. I'm serious when i say sd has seriously huge issues, no one ever wants to be around her, but they put up with it cuz she's family.
what do i say to dh? ideally sd would stay with bm for the rest of her vacation time... but i don't want to hurt dh. he told me flat out he doesn't know what to do with her. on a daily basis there is about 15 freak outs, she NEVER does what she's told, she never listens, she only cares about herself, she's rude, she's the meanest most selfish person, she's annoying, she's lazy, she poops her pants for attention, doesn't bathe, treats EVERYONE like shit...i could go on but this is already too long.
what do i say to dh to not offend him? i don't want her to come back! if she does come back were not going anywhere for vacation cuz she ruins it! i don't think it's fair the whole family has to sit at home cuz she's ALWAYS in trouble?! dh is humiliated! what do we do?!?