Ok I`ll try and make this as brief as possible, my soon to be father in law, is a pig, hes rude,disgusting, talks about womens down there parts in a very vulgar manner around women! hes never happy with my FDH and has never as long as I have known him said hes proud of my Dh or congratulated him ever, hes a very negative person who I have tried to get close to and it has not worked. DH thinks hes a low life as well but as his son has feelings for his dead beat father..so heres the deal..few months ago dh told his dad that we have gotten engaged, and that we were also expecting a baby! now most ppls reactions to that kind of "wow" news would be a good one filled with congratulations! but no...his dad said nothing but jokes about it and about the baby being "planned " or not, im assuming it was something gross as his father is a pig trucker...he did not say congratulations, or anything positive all he did was crack stupid jokes about the news.. so I was naturally like WTF? and so was DH so a week later he called his father and asked why he was the way he was and why he didint feel the need to congratulate him on our engagement and expecting a child! his response was defensive, he said he had company over and it was non of their business to over hear what the good news was... well Im sorry but last I knew news like that was a good thing, most parents would want to share with other people!!! so he ended up saying congratulations..a week later..when Dh confronted him about it.. Grrr his dad pisses me off so fucking much! so no idea why his dad is such a dick, but Im expecting my and DHs son in 3 months, and I mentioned the other day to my Dh that I dont want his dad there for many reasons at the hospital, because hes a negative person, he had no good things to say about our good news of expecting a child and getting engaged..and Dh was iffy about that, he said "Well... I dunno , I want him there I think.." Im sure he just doesint want to start shit with his dad or something which I can understand but what I need some wise advice on, is it reasonable that I am feeling this way? that I dont want his deadbeat negative father there? I mean I am going to be the one giving birth after all and that is stressful in itself im sure! i dont want the added stress of my negative asshole bringing me down before or after the birth..I want to enjoy my son with my DH and have an awesome experience! am I wrong in feeling this way? and how would I go about telling his dad that we feel he is not welcome at the hospital that day? I thought about just e mailing him and explaining exactly why he is not welcome so that he may not wonder why ,, im sure knowing him he will talk a bunch of shit behind my back about me, when I first met Dh his dad called me a snob behind my back because I was shy and wouldnt get out of Dhs truck to talk with them, I was on my lunch break eating lunch! and yes I am shy! see what I mean? hes just a foul mouthed , low life, hooker buying, disrespectful , old, ugly son of a bitch!