The Impending Summer Vacation
I'm new so hello everyone! I'm thrilled to have found this sight. Anyways
My biological sons, 10 & 12, always look forward to their vacations. My dh has a nightmare for a daughter, shes 11. On our first family vacation she single handedly ruined the entire trip to branson. I pay for everything because he doesnt work. I was very upset that after spending five grand, christmas vaction 2011 pictures show my sons not smiling and begging to go home. Yeah, it was that bad. Fast forward to yesterday, dh asks, when are we going on summer vacation? (((cringe))) I want to take my kids but not his. Simple as that. Does that make me a bad person? I feel like she needs to prove herself at home first. She way to old to be throwing tantrums and crying because shes not getting her way. Geez, I feel sick now just typing this......
You work. He doesn't. Take
You work. He doesn't. Take your kids, leave him and his child home.
You can't be all bad. You
You can't be all bad. You paid for your husband and his kid to go on the trip. I would have never done that. He would have had to help for for some of the trip.
Take your kids and have a blast.
Why is he already asking for
Why is he already asking for another vacation? Sounds like a brat himself. Don't feel bad at all about leaving his daughter at home, and him, too, if necessary.
Some people go on vacation
Some people go on vacation every year. Some take a few trips a year.
If that is the norm for the OP's family, then I get why he would ask. What seems odd and bratty, is asking when you aren't helping to fund the vacations.
You could tell him if he
You could tell him if he wants to take his kid, he has to pay for her. If he doesn't work, that is not very likely to happen.
He might borrow the money to
He might borrow the money to bring her.
I'd be straight forward. Tell him his girl isn't going and suggest he not even mention to her that the rest of you are going. If he objects, as I'm sure he will, remind him of the disaster it was and have the pictures ready.
Have a ready made list, screaming, pouting, etc etc.
Orrr - you can play nice. Tell him you need quality time with your daughters and he can do the same with his kid. You'll be traveling leaving him to concentrate on his kid at home. It would be nice if you didn't go to some kid oriented place. My experience as a father and a grandfather is you're better to go the national park route rather than Disneyland.