and, believe it or not, he's totally on board with it!!!!! So, since he's not a 'do'er" and I have to push him and remind him to do everything, i'll be doing that on a DAILY basis until it's set up. I am going to be having the kid dropped off to pop pop (fiancee's dad who's retired, who provided free daycare to ss8 his whole life till me) 2 days a week, giving me a break from him, and giving him a break from me and my kids. I seriously think we BOTH need it. WooHoo!! Stay tuned........