One more vent for the day - MIL, the skids, and BS1 - She's got some nerve!!
Since skids have been on vacation for almost 2 weeks now, poor MIL has hardly known what to do with herself without them. She typically has them 3 days/week, just because... she thinks they're hers... and BM really doesn't mind it at all. Anyway - MIL HAD THE FREAKIN NERVE to call me yesterday, just to talk, and eventually she broke down and told me how much she is missing the skids... she feels like there is a piece of her missing and it aches, not being able to hug them, kiss them, just hear their little voices running around her house. Well, that's great and all - but how about we address the fact that it has been since June 28th since you have seen BS1, and not even so much as a call/text/FB message to ask how he's doing, what's new, wanting to see him - NOTHING... HOW FUCKING DARE YOU CALL ME AND COMPLAIN ABOUT NOT SEEING, TOUCHING, KISSING, HUGGING, LOVING HOOD-RAT SKIDS IN ONLY 13 DAYS, WHEN YOU HAVEN'T SEEN YOUR GRANDSON, WHO'S JUST AS MUCH BLOOD AS THEY ARE, IN OVER A MONTH. I seriously had to choke back the tears, I was so angry and hurt, all I could do was cry. Talk to your son, woman - he's got plenty of 'sentimental' pictures of them I'm sure he'd love to share with you!
Also, last weekend, MIL is posting a picture ton of pictures of skids (SD8, SS5) from birth to present. Quick side note - aside from skids, she has 4 other grandkids - BLOOD grandchildren - that she pays no attention to. After about 20 pics, she sends me a and DH a message that says "Here is a photo album I put together for you to look at" to which I replied, "Oh how nice... I photo album of your favorites, SD and SS! Your album is title 'My Grandkids'... were you going to add any pics of the other 4?" 2 days later she replied, "Mommabear - ALL my grandkids are my favorite!" and then she found it in her heart to post 1 pic each of the other 4 grandchildren! WOOHOO!! Then, mysteriously I was 'blocked' from her account and she had no idea why or how... LOL... sure pal! 
I HATE that if she spends any time with my son as the only grandchild, she has to be 'fair' and 'make up' the time with the skids... not any of the other grandkids... only the skids. She really is a loving, kind, sweet grandma, but bat-shit crazy and a little off her rocker. Anyway - end rant! Sorry I've been so negative today... I've really had my feelings/emotions on my shirt sleeve today... SUCKS!! I just want my baby boy to be treated fairly... but who am I kidding... ?? Over it... for now! lol
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what a bitch. even if a gp
what a bitch. even if a gp has a favorite, they aren't supposed to make it obvious! good for you for calling her out! sd pulled the same shit a few years ago on fb. talked shit about me, and when i said my piece, i'm suddenly blocked. but she didn't know how it happened. a few days later, she's refriending me. idiots.
It typically ends up like
It typically ends up like that, where they are so obsessed with the poor little skids and how sad it is for them that they over do it and completely neglect the other grandchildren. It's sad, really. I hope YOUR parents are really good grandkids to JUST BS1 and do not try that "have to do equal for SKIDS" because the SKIDS have their OWN grandparents AND stepgrandparents on both sides.
My baby-to-be is going to be a definite underdog to SD12 because she's the favorite on DHs side, she has her maternal grandparents, she has my grandparents (not my parents,I have no contact with them), and the neighbors claim her as 'honorary granddaughter'.
My baby-to-be will have just my grandparents really. DH's dad will love it, but it won't be fawned over like SD12 her whole life, he has three great-granddaughters ages 3, 3, and 1 now that are there all the time since SIL (grandmother of the three great-granddaughters) moved in with FIL. This is great, and I completely have no ill feelings that my baby will not be "buddah baby" (I don't WANT it to be the spoiled center of people's worlds either), but when SD12 whined that "it would take attention away from me", I told her exactly the above and that if anyone would be "second fiddle" or get the shit-end of the stick, it was this baby. It's not going to have the cruises and Disney world trips of maternal grandparents (cause they are BMs parents), it won't be spending the night and going shopping with Papaw, and it doesn't have the honorary neighbor grandparents to take it out and buy it "fancier school clothes". She was pretty happy after that and really changed her tune about the jealousy.
But still. I can relate to you and that what your MIL lamented about her precious grandchildrens (leaving yours out) would hurt me tremendously if my FIL did that.
I would have half a mind to refer to her as "SKIDS gramma" to your son.
LMAO - that's how I have her
LMAO - that's how I have her saved in my phone... but that's for my eyes only, no one else hears/sees/knows that }:)
It makes me feel a bit better
It makes me feel a bit better knowing I am not the only one in this situation.
Fil and smil don't have anything to do with my kids (bioogical grandkids for Fil) yet buy SS and SD hundreds of dollars worth of gifts for their birthdays and didn't even call mine to say happy birthday or send a card.
Mil has never even bothered to meet my sons (both her bological grandkids) and my older son is 3. Yet the skids get sent care packages and calls on the phone. When BS3 asks if he can talk, she's suddenly busy and has to go.
Bil sent birthday gifts for SS and SD..... Nothing for BS.
It gets me so upset that my kids are slighted by their blood relative, and my mom goes out of her way to treat all the kids equal even tho she has no relation to the skids.
They gained a bonus grandma and my kids get shit from half thier family.....