Boyfriend Very Jealos, and Worried About the Future
Hi, this is my very first post, and I'm quite nervous. I'm having a problem with my current boyfriend.
He has been in my daughter's life since she was only a few months old, her biological dad left when I was pregnant but is still active in her life. She's 2 now, and loves by boyfriend to pieces. The problem is that my boyfriend is very jealous of my ex. He gets really upset when he calls or texts me, even though we only ever talk about the baby.
He is very nervous about the future. He's worried about not being included in parent nights, and celebrations and dance recitals and whatnot. He knows he'll feel slighted and overlooked, even though he has put in so much time with her. I guess he just really hates not being her biological father.
We recently had a fight about it, and he said he needs some time to think. He says it would be best for him to leave now, so that the baby will never remember him, but obviously the baby and I don't want that.
Can anyone give me some advice for him? Or any examples of how they felt in similar situations, and what they did about it?
This doesn't sound good. I
This doesn't sound good.
I don't understand why the new partners have an issue with parents discussing their child. Many posters on here...well, it really bothers them. I didn't care when DH had to talk to BM and never felt like I needed to be a part of it.
DH doesn't ever have an issue when I've talked with my XH. I've even met him to speak face to face. No issues on either side.
Why? Because we're confident in our relationship. No reason to be jealous.
I think this is a serious warning flag for your relationship.
He's right.
He's right.
It sounds like his feelings
It sounds like his feelings of jealousy are stronger than his feelings for you. And actually, I think it's fear more than jealousy. He is worrying more about future things than today. He may be dead tomorrow, why worry about "what ifs"? He has a lot of issues to work out. Counseling might help.