Is there anywhere that you could go to work like a library or a family/friends place or something like that? I dont know how much space etc you need to do your work but I am hoping for the sake of your sanity that there is somewhere you can go to get a little POM! What about your bedroom, can you lock yourself in there and work? Damn, I feel so sorry for you, I truly do! I hate hearing stories like this, it burns my ass so bad...skids, bms, and idiot dhs SUCK!!!!

I also work from home and having my two kids is plenty for me. My office is in the basement and I can hear them stomping around like elephants up there, screaming at each other sometimes. It's a pain. NO WAY would I put up with skids in my house doing that. If Daddy doesn't want to pay for childcare, then Daddy needs to make them show respect. This is pretty typical of dads expecting the sm to put up with everything and then look at her stupidly when she has a problem with it. Maybe you should tie them up and duct tape their mouths shut one day so when he walks in he gets the picture. LOL

I would make a rule that during the hours that you are home working they have to either stay outside or stay in their rooms!!

Ugh we have two living rooms in our house and when the kids watch tv in the upstairs one I kick them out and make them go downstairs where I can't see them or hear them as loud. They don't like it but too damn bad!!

Thats not fair to you to have them home all day being annoying.

SD15 lives with us and I so dread the summer. She follows me around all day long asking questions, asking everyday for me to take her out to eat or to buy her something. She is like a 5 yr old in a 15 yr olds body!!

maybe you need to express that you have to have some privacy in order to work, after all the money benefits him too. Ask him to make a schedule of visits so you know when you will be able to focus on your work. Should they come unannounced do not hesitate to let them know the bounderies. Afterall you are a part of this family. You deserve a say so.

My skids have half brothers and sisters. They tended to cling to my husband after their mom passed. Now mind you they still had a dad, a very nice man. But he lived in another state. Now my husband retired before i did. My SD would have her sisters over every day while I was at work. My hubby was here also. It was like a hang out spot. I worked in a metal shop in a factory that built autos. By the end of the day my legs could hardly carry me to my car. I would walk into the house and here they all are sitting, drinking coffee, the small ones playing on the recliner rocker like a play toy, dishes in the sink.....you get the picture. One of them made a halfway attemp to try and straighten up. My SD sat on her rump, very, very lazy. Now because i was trying to fit in this family somehow i thought about how to handel it. Some night they would be here until 8 or 9 and i had to get up at 3 in the morning. Afeter they would leave SD and dad would head to the living room. TV time. I tried talking to him but it did no good so I had to decide how to handel it. One day i came home from work tired as always. The little ones had ice pops and there were sticky stuff every where. one had spilled soda. I sat had coffee, chit chatted for a little while and got up and said" Dear I need to take a shower and i'm extremely tired so i think I'll leave dinner to you. I turned to the girls and said guys i'm not being anti social but i sweated alot so exscuse me for a bit. I then told SD " After everyone leaves ireally need you clean up the kitchen good and mop. There is sticky stuff everywhere." After I came out of he shower I noticed they had gone. I also noticed SD was gone. I said where is she? he said" she is spending the night with her sister" He had fixed dinner i said ty. I began to clean up the mess he said " Leave it I'll get it tomorrow. I said I can't leave soda on the oak chairs she was supposed to do this." i did the next day however tell her do not leave me a mess again. This is not a hotel or social club and I am not your maid. She went upstairs and started slamming doors. He just sat there. I was in shock. finally I said do you want me to take care of it? He went up.After all the money and time we put into this house i was not going to let it go to u know what.

Get a set of ear plugs to shove in your ears AND a set of noise blocking ear covers. Between the two you should have complete silence.

Or - which I recommend - leave.

Move one of their bedrooms into the middle of that living room, then you take their room as an office. When they complain about the lack of privacy - laugh at them.

My question was who's house is it? But I see that you earn the money for it so........

That means that FDH and skids can suck it.

You need to sit them down and let them know that this is YOUR house, too and your business provides for it.

Draw up a contract. If they cannot stick by it...then maybe you need to consider some other housing situation.

Your job should not take a back seat to bad child behavior.

I also work from home (internet marketing) and I got myself a desk for the bedroom and when the bedroom door is closed that means don't knock or try to ask me anything because I am busy. Only if the door is open am I allowed to be bothered.

But then again, this house is small so it was for my own privacy and sanity to be in the bedroom even though i would have prefered a dedicated official work space

I'm having a similar problem with SS(almost 12). He's with us full time and I have to figure out what to do with his for the summer. I work part time and my sister helps taking care of my kids (3.5 and 10mos) but after all the problems with SS, we have to make alternative arrangements for him.

He had been in a Boys & Girls Club afterschool program and they have a summer camp program we were planning on putting him in. But he was asked to leave the afterschool program because they don't have the staff to deal with his emotional problems. So we're scrambling to find some place else.

umm... question..

You chose the situation, and choese to live with it daily, so why bitch about it?

Tell him that they cannot be in house 8-4 or whatever time you work, and that if not you will leave..

Does he want to take his darlings with him when he goes to work on his project? Probably not. I work from home too, not every day but that may soon change. My son is used to this and stays out of the way, but SS5 feels this means I should be worshipping at the soul draining alter of Child Worship. I will admit, I turn into the wicked stepmom/wicked biomom when I am working from home. If a kid can't be quiet, then they can go sit in the middle of their stripped bed with nothing but the clothes on their backs and stare at the wall. Or I can lock them outside with water and grapes and tell them to make the best of it. I raise my voice, I get ugly, and if FDH doesn't like it, well, then he can take the kids somewhere with him and entertain them while I do my job.