I'm new to this so bare with me...my husband is 14 years older than i am we have been together for 6 years married for 4 we have a 3 year old daughter together who is absolutely amazing our life is great except for one issue his daughter who is 27 has been causing horrendous strain on our relationship for the past 6 years since we met basically. from the time we started dating she has involved her mother who my husband has not been with since she was a 1 1/2 years old. the verbal abuse started with my SD and her mother anywhere from i'd be out with my friends and she'd text her dad saying i was hanging all over guys my husband would confront me and my gf's i was with would straight up tell him she was not she was with us her lies started there that didn't work then she went as far as to send her mother who btw is drunk drunk attic and her aunt who has the same issues over to our home with baseball bats pounding on our door at 3 am threatening to kick both me and my husbands asses we called the cops and there is still a warrant out for her mother who'm does not live in this state. shortly after that i got pregnant the first thing that came out of my SD mouth was "why the hell did you knock that bitch up" and then didn't talk to her dad for 4 months we ignored it came time for my first ultra sound then she was ok with it all said she was excited i was having a girl she then proceeded to txt her mother we were having a baby girl her mother then txtd my husband and said "what you don't have the balls to have a boy" we ignored that also..my husband was upset that his daughter had txtd his mother anyting at all it's none of her business our life. they had not been together for 20 some years. the following summer i was pregnant i was put down by my stepdaughter and her friends and cousins on her side of the family. after i had my daughter she acted all flakey and interested and caring that lasted for 4 months than the shit started again. i would be out with my friends taking a break from being home all the time and she would txt her dad things like she flipped me off or i was rude to her when i didn't even talk to her nor see her. following all of this the last 3 years i have been wished dead more than 5 times threatened i was going to get my ass kicked and i better watch my back threatened that her mother was going to come here and put me in my grave where i belong all because her dad wouldn't take her side or leave me cause of her or she didn't get her way with things. She has continuously texted me and my husband horrible things verbally abusing us threatening she was going to turn us into dsf for not getting her way. About a month ago we ran into her at a local bar she walked in all drunk got in my husbands face and was angry with him called him names and said "don't you ever have anyone watch our daughter but her", I walked up to them asked what was going on and she turned around verbaly abused me called me several names and said i was a bad mother and didn't deserve to have my daughter then proceeded to smack me in the face, i dropped it let it go saw her in walamart few days later my daughter was with me said look theres " " better say hi she looked at me looked at my daughter gave us a dirty look and went down the next isle my daughters feelings were hurt she proceeded to flip me off and call me a bitch. It literally upset my stomach that she could be so cruel as to take her problems with me out on my 3 yr old daughter. i told my husband of it all and he confronted her she sent several txt messages with a huge manipulated lie making me look to be the bad person said i was hysterically yelling at her in front of maddie i'm like really well he didn't believe her he told her no she was wrong and y would i do such a thing she then proceeded tosend several mean ugly txt messages about me and the incident with her slapping me in the face said "the bitch deserved it" started a war again. i did text her back and said you lied again and i wasn't going to put up with the abuse anymore informed her that me and my daughter would not be attending her wedding in july and to stay away from us i said i don't care for you and what you have done to me and my daughter is unacceptable ecspecially considering we had just given her alot of money for her wedding before the incident of her slapping me it was 3 days b4 that. she proceeded to call her dad and text him more mean ugly things he told her maybe you should have thought bout your action in the last 5 years and the last couple weeks. To top this all off about this wedding deal she deliberately ruined our wedding she was spose to sign our marriage papers and never showed was on the phone with her mother the whole time. broke my husbands heart when he finally did get ahold of her she said i don't like the bitch and didn't want you to marry her. anyways to go on further i have had no contact with her she has involved my husbands family in her lies and manipulation to set out to make us be horrible mean bad people. we went out a couple weeks ago and ran into her again! she started running her mouth saying the mean awful things she does egged a fight on and i attacked her i had had enough. the fight broke up and i went outside her cousin and 2 of her friends jumped me outside i do have a witness to that.. I was taken to jail and charged with a pfma i spent a day and a half in jail away from my daughter and husband it was hell and heartbreaking. I plead guilty to the charge. I was wrong for what i did and i'll admit it but after almost 5 years of verbal mental abuse threats and whatnot i snapped. I realize now that i should have been the bigger person the adult and just walked away. i understand that. to make matters worse the day i plead guilty to my charge wich the judge commended me on being an adult about that same morning she went in and put a temporary restraining order on me. the judge was irritated by that said it was childish of her and seemed she just wanted to keep things going. he granted the temporary restraint and i have a hearing today on it. i'm nervous i feel threated by her and feel that if anyone should have a restrainng order on them it should be her. but that is besides the point i've had threats on the interenet me and my husband from her mother and her mothers family. i feel i have paid the price for what i did and would just like her to leave us alone. in the last 2 weeks since the incident she has texted my husband ugly nasty things saying he's a horrible father and mean things about me also. point being she is a malicious snake manipulative liar and i do feel threatened by her i feel she is trying everything possible to make our lifes hell...i want nothing to do with her i want no contact i just simply wish that she would leave us alone for good. any opinions or advice would be great