Now to start off I know that my children are far from innocent here. My boys are typical boys and yes I have a three year old who is very whinny and i Know that is enough to get under anyones skin. Here where the problems come in. My step children are 11, 9 and 7. My children are 12, 9 and 3. My husband has 1 boy, he is the oldest and two daughters. I have three boys. My boys have only had me in their lives. Their father didnt stick around so all the rough n tough stuff kinda fell short with these three. They are kinda sissyfied i guess you could say. I hate to say that but i guess its true, so im finding out here. My step children have always had their dad arounf and all three of them are very rough n tough n all that stuff and totally out of control. My husbands past marriage i guess you could say wasnt all that great and his ex wife and himself used the kids against eachother which was bad on their parts, i know. Now with having said that, its made it harder on my children and i. My step children do not listen, are far from hygenic, do not pick up after themselves at all n will destroy my nice clean home with in 30 min. of arriving. They will eat up all our food n waist 75% of it n leave it laying out everywhere. I had to get rid of my lovely dog that i had ever since she was 4 weeks old-i had her for 3 years-because they were mean to her and nothing i said mattered. Here is where it gets really bad. My 11 year old step son will beat up on my 9 year old on a regular basis,my 3 year old as well. He not only does this to my children but to his sisters as well. I feel sorry for those girls casue everything he does to anyone seems to b justified, all because they either defend themselves or are doing something that he decides he is interested in. My step son will call me anything but a white woman and he has seriously hit me with the highest intention of hurting me. HE CAN KICK!!!! i've had bruises left on my children and i both. He has bit the crap out of his sisters and dern near drew a serious amount of blood. He talks to his father with a serious lack of respect. Shown my 3 year old porn on the internet after waking him up in the middle of the night. He also did this to my 9 year old as well. He teaches my kids things that i feel they have no business knowing about. My kids have been somewhat shelterd from the harsh things in this world and i have been comfortable with that. His daughters, well they take advantage of knowing the fact that my boys are not allowed to hit girls. They will intentionally beat on or push around my boys knowing that if my boys hit them they will get in trouble. When i go to say something about it though, its all my boys are sissy's cause they are complaining about being pushed arounf and getting beat up by a girl. I don't know about anyone else but if when someone is sitting there smacking n hitting you n you cant do anything about it, its frustrating and someome needs to do something about it. I have almost left my husband several times because there is absolutely no need for my boys especially to have to go through this. everytime i go to say something though about the things that are being done its all justified. my kids are annoying and need to know not to do this or they were running their mouth so they got put in their place or well if my boys dont wanna get hurt they shouldnt mess with them. #1 if my boys defend themselves when the get hit or pushed, they get beat up, when they run their mouths its because they are being called horrible names and are sticking up for themselveso n they still get beat up, if my 9 year old is stickn up for my 3 year old he gats beat up, if my boys are doing something my step son decides he wants to do and my boys say no, they get beat up. when i go to do smoething about it i get hit by my step son or get scorned because my step son basically rules the roost. When i did once decide to take a xbox game away i got sidekicked hard as he!! in the side and then has his bm down my throat for it. all because my step son grabbed my 3 year old by the throat. Their bm tells them they dont have to listen to me and that my kids shouldnt get away with anything. I mean this woman tell them things that are just right down not true and horrible. I sell pills and do meth. Im a sleezy whore and i want nothing to do with my kids and have signed them awway to their father. when my boys father donesnt have anything to do with them. I confronted her about this and can you believe that she had on op saying that i was subjecting her kids to a harsh enviroment. I didnt even raise my voice at her, i was a adult about it all. She is the one who got hostile. Her kids will even make up lies and say that i beat my kids and that i dont feed them and i do all sorts of horrible things. I am a strict parent and was raised a certain way. i just want to raise my children the same and would like to incorporate these rules into their lifes cause my step children have NONE!!!! This only half of the problems and im sure prolly most ppl stopeed reading this after the firt 5 sentences but i need some help here casue if i cant figure out a way to help my step children and i make it through this and get them to atleast have some respect for us when they are their then i will have no choice but to lose the one thing ive longed for my whole life, my husband. we are great together but when it comes to our kids we r to protective and defensive n i know deep down inside he agrees with me on some aspects but he has daddy issues himself and thats why my step children have ended up this way. Has anyone out there had similiar issues or does anyone have any helpful advice that may help me help my family. I dont really think walking out on them is any way to take care of the situation besides letting them know they've won, or atleast thats how i feel thet will look at it. I want to help them not desert them. they need stucture and want to be able to be the one to help guide them but i cant risk my own childrens well being. Honestly, i think i need counseling after all this