:? How do you deal with a BM? Since day one with my husband-even when we were just dating-I have had serious problems with his ex wife. She used to always call talking about how he would text her and tell her he doesnt want to b with me, he wants to come home, he hates my kids and so on. She would always go on about how she saved the text and whatever but when i would tell her to prove it and she could show me when she was bringn the skids over she could show me.....well all of a sudden plans would change and someone else would have to drop them off.....that happened often.
Then, she has a daddy who is a policeman or used to be anyways and he has some pull i guess you could say. She gets an op put on my husband cause she said that he restrained her in her room pinned her down on the bed and dry humpd her until he came in his britches cause he wanted one last time, now I know my husband and something this simple as dry humping isnt enough to accomplish this task. A lady either has to know what shes doing or you will b working at it for awhile. Even when it something he's trying to accomplish.....not an easy task!! No disrespect or what not towards my husband just tryn to give an insight her as to how far she is taking all this.
When all this didnt work, she turned their kids against their father and i both. Telling them that daddy left cause he loves me more and I AM NOT A HOMEWRECKER...lets get that straight. This was over before i came along. Neways, he loves me more than he loves them and he choses my kids over them everyday. She will ell her children that they dont have to listen to me and that my kids do not get away with anything-meaning the skids need to make sure of it. I am strict on things with my kids....there is breakfast lunch and dinner, snacks-little snacks are ok-in between but eating this and eating that all day long and waisting it half the time is unaccaptable.
Certain things are just that way with myself and i see no need in letting the skids get away with this when my children may not. If i tell them no-the skids-they will sneak and call their mother, crying saying that I am starving them and will not let them eat and that she needs to bring food over. well, when she does....i still do the same! Then my husband gets to hear how i am neglecting their children and she will turn us in and take hime to court for this.
Then there is the whole peeing the bed, floor, couch, and anywhere she pleases ordeal. One of my skids will pee anywhere she feels is necessary. When I go to have a fit about this I get yelled at from other skids about how im hateful cause she has kidney problems and cant help it. In my defense, if her kidneys were really that bad still....the doctor would not of taken her off her meds and told her, SHE IS DOING GOOD!!! She will all of a sudden have to go potty when my boys and i are using the restroom and all we hear is get out she has kidney problems. Evrytime we r in there...it never fails. Then she will literally pee the bed everynight she is here. I buy her pull ups, i didnt pay money for a bed to b peed all over. Well needless to say her mommy calls my husband up saying she isnt allowed to sleep in pullups because when she pees it breaks her out to where the pull ups.Why is she 8 and still doing this? Well no one tries to correct her because they feel sorry for her. Not me, the doctor said she is fine, its time she learns not to be lazy. if I put a pull up in her during the day.....seriously she will not use the toilet once she wets the pull up till its busted!! mt three year old will still use the toilet if for sme reason he has a pull up on. Am i wrong to feel that way on that part?
Carrying on, bm has been telling skids i cheat on their father-bm has proof and pictures she says....this is impossible cause ive not done a thing. I sell drugs and do meth. This is some of the things she will tell my skids and it works. She will sing songs and switch out words and put my name in place.....words like whore or things along that line. It never ends!!!! She called dcfs on me and had my skids say i beat my kids and neglect them, which is far from the truth...they came and talked to my kids, i was not proved to be a child beater in that case or a neglectful parent. well you all get the idea here......any suggestions, please!! even if you are a bm reading this please give me some insight as to why someone would do this...even if you urself have a lover and are planning on moving in with him....WHY?!!!!