Just wanted to say that it has only been a few days and even though I miss having DH around when it was just us, it is heaven without SS8.

To anyone living with a DH with an extreme case of guilty daddy syndrome, let me tell you how FABULOUS it is not to have to deal with this at the end of a workday! The constant walking on eggshells is over. Oh yes, it is pure HEAVEN not to have to hear about BMs and SS8s latest psycho sick escapades every day now too!

A friend and coworker of mine who is beautiful lady with a doctorate was so flabbergasted. She asked incredulously, "He broke up with you over his kid?!". Then she told me how she had dated a guy for three years she thought she could change too but some mannerisms are to ingrained. She comforted me and stated that he may cool off and feel remorse. The thing is I know he is missing me because I was so good to him and his evil brat. But that doesn't change the fact that he thinks it is ok to be cruel to me just to show off his over indulged loyalty to his little narcissistic juvenile delinquent.

I happened to glance at my step talk account and discovered that I have been on here almost as soon as they began living with me. I was so desperate for some help and acknowledgment of the things he claimed I was being over sensitive too. I knew in my heart he was the fool and not I. It is just so sad that things have been that bad for over a year and from the get go.

I'm a reasonably intelligent woman and I always tried to take the high road and communicate with DH in a constructive and loving way. I was always the patient kind step mom to SS8 too though recently I found myself disengaging. None of it had more than brief short-lived results. Guilty dads are truly like drug addicts smoking the crack pipe of their controlling coddled overly demanding spawn. Until they choose to get off the "dragon" you can only watch the self destruction. There is no intervention and you are only resented and destroyed for trying to help.

To all the wonderful people who are living in StepHell and who took/are taking the time to advise, comfort and vent with me - THANK YOU from the bottom of my broken but healing heart. I'm taking my exit from the drama as a victory for me.