CPS
So two months ago, my BS13 and I had a morning blow out about him not wanting to go to school, and wanting to live with his father. Finally, after the morning calmed down, I drove him to school and thought it was over, little did I know his father, my ex, went up to his school, met with him, the guidance counselor and the principal and the school made a report to CPS on me, for abandonment, apparently, my ex told the school that I locked my son out of the house and told him he could never come home and took away his key. NONE of that ever happened. CPS came and spoke with my son, and that was it, I never received a call, a visit, a mailing, nothing. Everything calmed down, my son came home after his father kept him for a week and wouldn't let me see him or take him to a therapy session; I ended up having to beg my ex's new wife for help and she sided with me and my ex let up a little, of course taking all the credit for everything. So, I thought that went away. Yesterday, I got a call from CPS, they are coming to my house today in 1 1/2 hours to talk to me and present me with the allegations against me. I have no idea why now they are coming, after 2 months of nothing. I am so nervous. I cleaned my whole house top to bottom, I went food shopping, I made everyone's bed. What are they looking for? Why was it pushed aside and now 2 months later are they all of a sudden on top of it? I am nervous that my ex made another false report because 2 weeks I had an argument on text message with my ex's wife and she threatened me that now would not be in my favor to have to go to court with what is going on, but nothing was going on, unless she and my ex made another false report about something. I am sick to my stomach, I dont know what to do with myself, I asked my DH to stay home from work today. Does anyone know what they will look for and what my rights are? Thanks.
Crazy. PS - these CPS idiots
Crazy.
PS - these CPS idiots are a pain in the behind. I love how they go through your fridge, but if you can't freaking afford much food these days, they don't offer to PAY it! lol I also love how they check how clean your place is...REALLY? I mean, if there were 300 cats and crap all over, I get it...other than that, they should not have a say on how nice or clean your house is...it's ridiculous...unless of course, you want to make a LAW that your house must be clean at all times...
Honestly, I think most are idiots, no different than most govt workers
They probably just have to
They probably just have to close out the case. Two years ago SD (then 7) lied at school saying she gets beaten with a belt (in order to get out of a yellow card (warning) being sent home). CPS spoke to both skids at school.... SD stuck to her story, SS told the truth. Like three weeks later they showed up at the house, asked about how we disipline, and took pics of the kids rooms. Then she said that she sees that the report was unfounded and closed the case.
I think they make the home visit just cover their own butts. Takes so long because its not a priority and they get to it when they can.
depending upon what state u
depending upon what state u live in depends on their procedures. in florida, when they make a home visit they will want a walkthrough of ur home to see where everyone is sleeping, if each person has a space, they will check ur fridge and pantry and ask a bunch of questions. we had CPS come to our home last year because my nephew was going to stay with us a few days after a fuck up from my sister. so we werent the ones being investigated due to allegations.
years ago, though, sd made a false report on me and they came to the house. it was the same thing though, walthrough and questions. lots of them. and the case was closed that day cause they could tell sd was a manipulative lying bitch.
stay calm. YOU know ur innocent. just be yourself. cleaning the house was good, same with the food.
ok, please just let ur son live with his dad. he isnt going to stop until he gets what he wants. protect urself.
Let him go to his Dad...It
Let him go to his Dad...It will save you years of heartache. He will come back eventually or the Dad will give up and send him back. But, fighting to keep him is just making everyone miserable. We have been here and have the legal scars to prove it...
He was at his dad for a week,
He was at his dad for a week, maybe 2, it seems so long ago that it happened, it was January 10th, it was weird him not being here. I wanted him back, I missed him, we went to some therapy sessions together and with my DH and since then things have been quiet and good. My ex is the biggest piece of shit that I honestly don't want him raising my son to grow up like him, I don't see that as being a good thing in my son's life, the lessons my ex teaches are you can do know wrong and everyone is at fault. I asked my son what CPS asked him and he didn't remember, he knows he did this and he's upset that they are supposed to come back today, I say supposed because they never showed up, so here's my next question, how long do I have to wait for them to come? As I am writing this she just called, she was supposed to be here at 11 but is just leaving the office and it should take her 20 minutes. Wow, this is really urgent isn't it :?
Hang On....Can I call the CPS
Hang On....Can I call the CPS to investigate our BM and the way in which we feel she is not providing correctly for the skids.
Living in a lesbian relationship in a 2 bedroom home with 4 boys??? I have heard the skids are sleeping in the lounge on the couch and are never fed correctly....nothing but junk food is given to them, with nothing but coke to wash it all down...
How do I annonymously report this???
CPS never tells the person
CPS never tells the person they are investigating who made the report, so if you are truly concerned with the living conditions and the malnourishment of your skids then by all means make the report. I am wondering by what everyone is saying about them looking where the children sleep what my ex is going to say when they show up at his house, he has my 2 kids BS13 and BD8 sleep either together on a pull out couch or he has my BS sleep on an air mattress which has a slow leak and my son ends up on the floor.
apparently the skids are left
apparently the skids are left there all weekend by themselves too...and their heads are full of hate towards me and my DH - their Bio dad....
I think it should be done asap
If your skids are being
If your skids are being mistreated by their BM not only would I make the report but your DH should also take her back to court to change visitations.
so she came and because she
so she came and because she knew by the report when it first came in that it was unfounded, it wasn't a priority. She had to close the case. I feel better now, while she was here and read me the allegations, I made sure to give her some very specific details about my ex husband and of course the whole sleeping arrangement situation. She needs to come back one more time to look at my kids to see they are not abused and they are healthy and then she will close the case.
Mt Ex husband attempted to
Mt Ex husband attempted to turn me into CPS two years ago because my pipes froze in my home. My landlord took his sweet time coming to fix them. Only so they could freeze again because the dumbass didn't cover the hole properly under my house. We had to bring in those HUGE jugs of water so we could have water for ALMOST a month. My ex told everyone I didn't pay my water bill and that's why the kids had no water. ASS! I had to go to mediation over that crap. He tried to take the kids from me because my PIPES froze! Seriously..... AS long as you are providing a roof over those kids head and keeping them in school and feeding them CPS can come in all they want. They have better and bigger cases to worry about then some darn text message fight. I think it's crap like that and what my ex did that gives CPS a bad name. Because the kids that need CPS never seem to get them. My daughter found a crack pipe in her best friends mom's bathroom. They both came to me with it and I called the school. The school called CPS. They did nothing. Interviewed the kids that was it. No in home visit nothing.
I wouldn't clean my house for CPS. People do laundry. People have dirty dishes. When you run around crazy like and the house is spotless then I would think they would worry even more? I am sorry you felt you had to scramble. How stressful. I remember being so angry when my Ex pulled his bs. I had to humiliate myself and get copies from City Hall to prove I had paid my water bills. It's things like that that remind me just how petty divorce can get.
If a report is made to them,
If a report is made to them, they have to take is seriously and follow up. My ex stepdaughter (the daughter of my ex husband)is 16 years old. Her and her mother were fighting like crazy and she went to school and told the guidance counselor that her mother hits her. I am now on good terms with her mother so she called me and said that the lady said she had to come check out the house and make sure there is food and a bed for the child. She also said she sees this with many teenagers and suggested counseling for both of them and left it at that. She said many teenagers are just manipulative and lie and they can usually see right thru it.
I had them at my door today
I had them at my door today too. All because last week my girls "thought" they missed the bus, they hadn't, they just went out too early and decided to walk instead. I did NOT give them permission to walk and the school called me and asked me if I was aware they had walked, of course I wasn't and I was upset about it as well. Even though they are 11 and 9 and the school is literally a 5 min walk down the road I just don't let them because there is a major intersection on our road. Anyways they called CPS on me despite the fact I had already taken care of it and spoke to my kids. They HAVE to follow up on every call, it's protocol, the woman that spoke with me was very nice, she said she understands kids even younger in the area walk to school as well, that wasn't the concern, it had to do with them crossing the intersection, I understand that as that is why I do not let them walk to school without me, even though my girls are very smart and careful and stay between the lines and wait for the walk sign to come up. She doesn't think anything will come of the call. The school phones them over every little thing.
Anyways, if you haven't done anything wrong you don't have anything to worry about. It will most likely be open and shut.