How is everyone's visitation set up?
DH and I have ss8 everyother day and everyother weekend.
Ss8 is having a huge problem with listening to any adult & acting out in school.
It all came out of nowhere! Ive thought he's been a really good kid but am now learning
I might have been manipulated by his charming ways.
Our home has the Same schedule and he knows what to expect on the days he's with us.
When it's his mothers time to have him she rarely has him. Most of the time he's at her moms
With all her adult siblings all living under one roof as they don't have much of a future so their mooching off of mom ( hince not real good examples)
Dh is going to file to go to court to change visitation as we feel his erratic schedule might be contributing to his erratic behavior. Bm is totally against going a week with her, a week with us and every other weekend. I think she doesn't like it as his structure at our home will reflect in his behavior at school. In turn she won't look like a good parent on her week.
Was just wondering how everyone else's visitation is?
We feel horrible about this
We feel horrible about this but, if we are not able to get the everyother week schedule we are going to just get him everyother weekend.. As much as we'll miss him we feel this schedule is hurting everyone!
It really stinks when he does something bad at school and we are the only parents the have consequences. The next day he's not in trouble at all... His mom uses video games as a babysitter... Ugh
Wow sounds like your
Wow sounds like your situation worked out for the best! Your ss is lucky to have you!
Dh is so frustrated now as we have to take her to court and we are not sure if a judge will " take" a child away from their mother. We don't want that as the lil guy loves his mom, she just isn't a good parent.
She has 3 kids 3 different dads.. A boyfriend that is a thug. And education is not important. She bribes ss not to tell his councelor what happens at her house. We are lost as to what to do? Do we spend the money on our atty to fight for him and his future? Ss like to be at her house as she's never there and his 14 year old big brother watches him and they watch south park ( gasp) together!
Ss councelor suggested he gets tested and bm is totally against looking into the problem
My SO is very frustrated
My SO is very frustrated right now also. Courts award the kids to their mothers in KS unless they are unfit by drugs or prostitution... From what I gather, she's gotta be looney toons before the kids get awarded to dad. But this mom is CRAZY! 27, third marriage, pregnant with her second child. Has three new Skids. Living paycheck to paycheck. Married this guy on a whim... It's a mess. Takes a toll on the kid. It's annoying.
Oh wow Sounds like you have
Oh wow :jawdrop:
Sounds like you have your hands full!
Yeah that's crap, Dh fears taking bm to court as
He thinks she'll try to get more cs or something!
The court systems seem to favor women... Ugh!!
Good luck in your situation!
It's nice to have a place where people know what your going through!
My SO was SUPPOSED to have
My SO was SUPPOSED to have every weekend, but when BM took off to another state that changed things. THey didn't go to court, but worked it out on their own. SO gets SS9 on school breaks. It makes things tough over here because it's like a "vacation" from life. My SO wants to do nothing but show him a good time while he's here, which I understand, but the kid is seriously lacking responsibilities and structure here. It's a vacation pad, point blank.
She doesn't have a problem
She doesn't have a problem going without her kids for a week, if it's convenient for her.
She left her kids for a week and was without them at Christmas because she needed a "break" :jawdrop:
whenever its convenient for
whenever its convenient for BM which means every weekend and every other week or 2 weeks with us. hell if it suited her party schedule and didnt make her look like an even shittier mom than she already is she would probably leave him with us all the time as long as she still gets her child support.
The every-other-day thing
The every-other-day thing sounds like a bit of a nightmare!! Ours recently changed...it used to be every other weekend and occasionaly a day here or there during the week. But it just changed to us having them Mon-Thurs night every week, plus every-other-Sunday. Joy.
That schedule would drive me
That schedule would drive me nuts. It's probably driving the kiddo nuts too. Kids need a more structured living arrangement with more consistent day-to-day schedules than that allows. Your husband is doing the right thing in taking the issue back to court.