"Super BM" does it again
SS8 came home on Monday with a cold, said he'd been sick since Saturday, but hadn't taken any medicine until Monday morning when BM gave him allergy meds. So DH and I spent all week trying to nurse SS back to good health. BM has extended custody and gets skids up on Thursday evenings to drop off at school on Friday mornings.
DH just got a text saying SS8 wasn't feeling up to school today and so she kept SS8 and SS6 home from school.
Today just happens to be the day of BM home visit with the Social Worker, kids don't have to be present (they were at school during our HV), and if BM had taken them to school, kids would not be at her home during the visit.
How likely is it that SS8 would be slowly getting better here with DH and I, but then on Friday morning, when it was convenient for BM, SS is too sick to go to school.
Also, what does SS8 not going have to do with SS6 not going to school?
In a previous post I mentioned Spring Break begins today and BM has the kids for the week, DH was already upset enough, now he's mad because he might not get to see the kids for the 3 hours that were supposed to be his from school dismissal until exchange with BM.
Is it bad that all I want to know if how do I get my $10 back for SS field trip that DH and I paid for that SS missed because he didn't go to school today?
BM here does that all. The.
BM here does that all. The. Time. She's CONSTANTLY calling the kids in "sick," andit's always BOTH of them. If it's too inconvenient for her to drive them to school that day, they're "sick."
Today we had a 2-hour delay, and what do you know? They're both sick. Bet they'll magically be all better when DH picks them up tonight!
And yes, she should definitely reimburse you for the missed field trip. But don't count on ever seeing that money.
I am just so irate over this
I am just so irate over this incident! She told DH that she called the school and "they said it was okay". Well DUH! The school cannot force you to bring your kids to school if you are claiming they are sick.
I just went off on DH because he's too wishy washy on the topic of BM. One minute when he's talking to me BM is the worst thing ever to walk this earth, but then when he has to confront BM, she's magically becomes "not that bad". He always has an excuse, "what good would telling the lawyer do", "even if I tell the social worker she won't do anything", "I forgot to tell the lawyer (even though I reminded him for three straight days)", "the social worker will just say that's the way BM parents", "I don't want to have to argue with BM", "the lawyer can't do anything until we go back to court".
I have been telling DH that he needs to mention to the lawyer and to social worker that at least one of the skids comes back sick after each "long" weekend with BM (it may sound far fetched, but I am so serious) and on numerous occasions, the skids have come back with ringworm.
DH keeps saying "there's not a whole lot they are gonna do" and I agree 100%, but as I just yelled at him over the phone, sometimes its not about lawyers or social workers doing something right now, but if DH can prove a pattern of neglect and poor parenting habits as evidenced by the kids poor health status after spending time with BM, then that could go a long way in a court situation. And at the very least, it is the job of the lawyer and the social worker to hear the concerns of DH, I say we should get our money's worth.
I AM SO FRIGGIN PISSED RIGHT NOW!!!!!!!!!
Can he take them to the
Can he take them to the doctor and get these symptoms/conditions documented? I would think medical records would go a LOT further than just reporting something like to a lawyer or social worker?
I understand you're pissed .. but to save you're own sanity, you can't be more invested or involved than DH is. It will drive you nuts. I've been there .. if he doesn't care, or isn't motivated, you can't FORCE him to be.
BM always finds an excuse for
BM always finds an excuse for the kids to take time off school. When she had her youngest she gave them all a day off on separate days to "bond" with their younger brother. They have days off on their birthdays and days off when they have appointments which are only doctors and dentists so could at least go in for the morning or afternoon depending when the appointment is. Also, if a kids ill on a Sat then she'll say they don't need to go to school on the Monday, never mind the fact they'll probably be better by then - but then that means she gets to have one of the kids Sun night as partner would have to drop them off home Monday morning otherwise. The other week was SD14's bday but because it landed on a school holiday she let her have a day off on the first Monday she was due back. Makes me mad because the only reason why she does it is because she has 3 kids under 4 and can't look after them herself so relies on partners kids who are near enough all in teens, to help out!!