Nothing to me. She attacked FDH.

Through the divorse decree FDH can claim the kids throughout the year but BM gets to claim both of them on her taxes which doesn't make any sence becuase if FDH claims them throughout the year he ends up owing at the end of it. She sent FDH an email about a week ago stating that FDH can claim one of the kids.

So the email she sent FDH stated that she is cancelling her previoius okay that FDH can claim one of the kids, that she wants to change the divorse decree, and as for pick ups and drop offs she will continue to drop FSD off at school and FSS off at daycare at the beggining of the FDH's weeks and that she has been advised that FDH needs to continue to drive over to her house and drop the kids off with her at the beggining of her week.

The drop off thing is complete crap. FDH doesn't want to see her. There is nothing in the divorse decree about how the kids are supposed to be exchanged so FDH is planning on doing the same thing that she does at the beggining of his week. As for being advised. By who? It was New Years day. Most people including lawyers have the day off. She's such an idiot. It's just another way for her to try and control FDH. As far as the tax thing FDH isn't even sweating it. He's tiered of her power plays and for the divorse decree being changed, we'll just see about that.

All she was trying to do, because there is no way that she could respond to the email I sent and sound saine was try to cause crap between FDH and I. What she doesn't know is that it had the opposite effect. The last thing that she had that she could hold over his head was the tax thing. She's played her final hand in the domination of FDH. She's got nothing else and it's great. Finally free from her. We also have eleminated contact with her unless it's an emergency. Everything else child related goes via email.

Not to me. She attached FDH by sending an email. What could she say to me? Nothing that wasn't going to make her sound like the nut job that she already is and she knew it that's why she never responded to my email. On what planet is it okay to enter some ones home when you haven't been invited in? I know it's not okay on this planet.

I think that I had every right to tell her not to enter my home. First, it's my home and she is not welcome. FDH didn't want her in the house either he just hates drama. Secondly, you have no idea of the crazy crap this lady has pulled. Just read my previous posts about her.

Regardless of whether or not you agree with this, it's my battle too. When she chose to approach my daughter, 5 at the time, after I dropped her off at school on the playground when she was already told that was not acceptable I had every right to say something. I let FDH handle it. When she stalked FDH, sitting outside the house at 3 am amongst many many other things, for the first year that I was with him and thought that they were in some sort of a secret relationship, I had every right to confront her about it but I let FDH handle it. When she blamed her CPS bs on me I had every right to say something but I let FDH handle it.

After all of that I let FDH handle it. When she entered my home uninvited it was the final straw. I could really care less if she amps up the crazy. She's not allowed to call or text unless it's an emergency. FDH lets all calls go to voicemail first just to make sure it's an actual emergency. I am not going to just sit back and let this lady do what ever when ever she wants. She came onto my territory without my knowledge which makes it not only FDH's issue but mine as well.

Let me ask you guys a question. Say your FDH has en ex girlfriend that is stalking him. Would you probably confront the girl if given the chance? I would assume yes. How is that any different?

I have gotten to a place in my life where I don't need to take crap from anybody. She crossed the line and I put her back on the other side of it where she belongs end of story. She doesn't have to like it but she has to abide by it.

I know what you're syaing and that sounds great in theory but you have no idea what type of person she is.

If FDH confronts her about anything, and believe me he has, she just finds a way to wiggle her way out of it. Like when he confronted her about the stalking. She told him that he lead her on which isn't true because I was there through it all.

FDH didn't know that she was in the house until he went back to FSD's room and found her there and she left right after that. I was in the shower trying to avoid her crazy ass which apparently was not the best idea.

If someone enters your home without your permission you have every right to say something to them. Especailly when they know they are not supposed to do it. Had I been there I would have said something but I wasn't. That doesn't mean that I can't say something to her the following day.

I think that the email coming from me has more of an impact then if FDH sent it. She was very controlling and very verbally and emotionally abusive towards FDH in their marriage. She has absolutly no respect for him and doesn't take anything he says to her seriously. When FDH sent her the email explaining that she is no longer allowed to call anymore unless it's an emergency she responded with and email stating that's humerous. She still thinks that she has some kind of control over him and blows off anything that he says.

After I sent that email she didn't respond with a that's humerous. Infact she didn't respond at all. She's not used to having people stand up to her. What did she do? Attacked FDH. Why? Because she thinks that she can still treat him like crap and get away with it. But what she doesn't understand is that she has no more power over him. He doesn't care anymore. The only thing that he wants her to do is leave him alone and we're finally getting to that point. And here's what I love the most, she can't force people to interact with her. Sure she is the mother of his kids. But that's it and she's having a really hard time coming to grips with this fact. For example if you read my post she still wants FDH to drop the kids off at her house. He doesn't want to but that's what she wants. Is he going to it no. Is it going to piss her off that she's not getting her way? Oh hell yes. Will she try to pull another power play on FDH? Yes. Why? Because she wants to have control over him. Is it going to work? No. Eventually she'll stop playing the power game because games are only fun when people play them with you.

I completely understand what you are saying Tog. But she has already bullied me for almost two years. FDH has confronted her and she just blows him off. What you need to understand is that I'm not the type of person that just sits there and bites my tounge but that's what I have had to do. She came into the house not because she's not affarid of me but because she thought she could get away with it and nobody would say anything about it. Had FDH said anything to her she would have just blown him off. Believe me when I tell you, she was not expecting to here from me. And I know she knew FDH was behind me because I sent the email to her from FDH's email. She already has my phone number I'll be damned if she gets my email.

Another thing is that I finally got a chance to confront her on some of the crap that she has pulled. FDH has already done this but I think that it was important to myself to be able to stand up to somebody who has treated me sub-human for all this time. I am a pretty easy going person who gets along with most people but I will not tolerate blatent disrepect which is what I have had to do since I have been with FDH. I know that eveybody is going to blame this on him and maybe it is a little bit of his fault. But anther thing is that you can't control people. You can ask them to do something and they can either listen or not. She's crazy. She chooses not to listen and do what she wants it's her MO.

Regardless of whether or not it would have been better for FDH to handle the situation I feel good about it. It's like being in an abusive relationship and allowing somebody to sh!t on you and then finally standing up for yourself. It's liberating and now she knows a little bit of who I am. I am not a coward who hides while she plays her evil games. I am right there with FDH. We are a united front.