I married a wonderful man 3 years ago, together for 6 years at this point. He had custody of his then 9 year old daughter and has had her solely since she was about 3. When we first met he talked to BM every day and one day I asked how often she talked to her daughter. He said she probably hadn't talked to her in 9 months. What?! U talk to her everyday but she hasn't talked to her own child in 9 months?!!! Doesn't that sound crazy to you? (She lived 1600 miles away and wasn't a threat to me but still that's a little much) Well the daily conversations were totally shut off. She was advised to call when she wanted to talk to her child. When my SD was about 12 she got her own cell so very little convo was needed by my husband and BM. Onto the vent for today...just wanted to give a little background of her mentality.
My 15 yr old SD had a diving accident in school last Tuesday. She dove into shallow water and hit the top of her head on the bottom of the pool. When we picked her up from school she was walking but had some pain in her neck, back and shoulders. We took her immediately to the family doctor. After viweing xrays he opted to have her transported via ambulance to the best med ctr in town. Okay so we are scared. Bottom line at that point: she would be in a neck brace for at least 3 months. She was in the hospital for about 36 hours when I asked her and DH if anyone had called her mom. She said she hadn't, he said he called BM's grandmother and aunt who he figured would get a hold of her. I told him that if this happened to one of my kids I would want to be told. He texted BM immediately. No response. oops, forgot to mention that we now live about 200 miles away from BM now). After we get SD home, he tells me that BM was contacted by his neice the DAY OF THE ACCIDENT and did not call to check on her child. Am I wrong for thinking that this woman is the ultimate loser???!!!
My SD is unfortunately or rather fortunately going to have surgery as the bones in her neck continue to shift even with the brace. I asked if she contacted her mom and she said no so I am not forcing the issue. Am I wrong for that? Please prayer for a successful surgery and her recovery. And Please do advise what you think of BM....I am greatful to an extent that she is not the wench that so many of you have to deal with but really, your kid is in the hospital, you know and don't make the effort to visit her or at the very least call??!! She sickens me but she is STILL her mom.