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Being taken seriously by the outsiders

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Submitted by Tulla on Thu, 09/01/2011 - 1:53pm

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I posted this in the wrong section earlier and am reposting in the general discussion area as I feel desperate to hear from anyone else if this happens to them. I am very lucky. I like and love my step kids. I have their respect as well as my husbands. My home life is good. (BTW, my husband's ex has passed away) Here is my question, how do you get taken seriously by friends, teachers, doctors etc? Examples: A good friend of mine stunned me the other day when she said I couldn't possibly have any understanding of parenting and the love you have for your child because I do not have biological children. Or at a teacher conference, the teacher will never look at me, address me unless my husband or step kids give 'the nod'. I try not to, but I get seriously hurt and angry by how the biological parent world treats me, the person who cooks, cleans, dries tears, hugs good night, buries gold fish, helps with homework etc. Does anyone else ever feel this way? Any thoughts or opinions would be helpful. Thank you.

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Submitted by beyond pissed-off on Thu, 09/01/2011 - 5:13pm

Wow - why is that woman your friend? That was just plain mean. Granted, I have had people say exactly the same thing to me but never anyone who claims to care about me! I think that people who think that way are idiots. I have not - and will not - produced a biological child. That does not mean that I, nor the countless other women who for any number of reasons have no biological children, fail to understand parenting and love for children. People like this make me feel seriously stabby!

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Submitted by Lauren1438 on Fri, 09/02/2011 - 3:01pm

Try to hold your head up high. People are down right mean. I am 22 and my Fiancé is 27 he has 2 beautiful girls that I have grown very attached to and love over the course of a year. They consider me their mom because theres walked out. they are 5 and 3 and everyone of my friends think I am crazy and it is alful at work when I try to take a day off because I say there is no day care for my kids, and they laugh or some just say they arent really yours.

Just keep your head high, as long as the children love you and you are happy at home that is all that matters.