My SD14 used to post all sorts of inappropriate stuff - sexual etc on FB - I would tell my DH and he'd tell her to remove it - not get really angry like I thought was warranted - in the end I quit being on FB as I found it too stressful. The funny thing is that DH rang her on Sunday and told her to take something off and she unfriended him. She still has another 1800 "friends" on FB so that's OK!

I am hating Facebook more and more. Bad for kids and for us..Like a Highschool that we grownups are sort of allowed to enroll in and then end up regressing to that age ourselves. Not you; I am just venting. Sorry to hyjack your post, I am just fed up with FB. I have been wanting to close my account, yet I like to keep in touch with a couple of family members and friends overseas and then I get caught up in the BS. I have someone who used to be a close friend that got mad at me for calling her on something, ever so nicely, so she unfriended me and now posts little mean hints ON MY DAUGHTER"S PAGE????
Again, sorry if this does not belong here. FB sucks and people that use it to further their agendas suck too.

I'm torn, I hate FB, then I love FB. I don't understand how people are putting soooo much information out their - regardless. I see people posting they are going on vacation, dog to kennel, yada yada - anyone stalking you can see when it's OK to break in your house.

The love for FB comes from our idiot BM and my SS - they don't mark their pages private and post EVERYTHING out there. Gives me an edge on her antics, plus - SS's drug use is out their for the world to see, including the cops

Just faxed his page to the local police this morning for content he posted 2 nights ago. A lot of the stuff is ridiculous that you see on FB, but for those who have half a brain and are battling exs - it can be a very useful tool thanks to their stupidity.

I agree that FB creates more drama than anybody needs...as if there isn't enough without it.

I think that a lot of the issues arise because parents won't monitor their childrens pages as they should, & those who do look at their childrens pages refuse to approach their children & guide them when necessary in what is & is not appropriate to post on the world-wide web, & also to address how they behave toward other people online...language, attitude...all of it.

People use it as a tool to hurt/offend others by adding/deleting friends based on their mood that day, & I think that it contributes to many of the issues people seem to have anymore with communication. People don't confront each other face-to-face anymore when problems arise. All the disagreement is handled with public FB jabs back & forth.

DH's nephew will be 21 in October. He's been filling out job apps for the last 2 years & couldn't figure out why he couldn't get a job. His FB page was loaded with references to getting stoned & eating pills. Hmmm...

He deleted his page 2 months ago because it was causing problems between him & his girlfriend, & can you believe the 2nd job app he turned in after his page was gone resulted in employment.

Now, given that, I am a FB addict myself. In my 4 years on FB I have collected 84 friends. The majority of my friends are fmaily members spread across the United States. I am the only one of my famiy on the East coast & don't get to visit with the rest of them often. FB is where I get to see my nieces & nephews grow up. It's where I get to read about what they are doing in life, & it's where they can go any time that's convenient for them to see my pictures & catch up with what's happening in my life.

I guess like with everything else, you take the good with the bad. I do have concerns about the impact it has on a lot of kids who are on there unmonitored & the attitudes & morals they develop because of how they are allowed to behave on it.

It's great to see that I am not the only FB hater on the forum. I think it does more evil than good, on the whole, and people become competitive about friends and use it to "stalk" others. I persuaded my DH to unfriend BM the other week - I was horrified to know he'd accepted her (apparently continual) requests to become friends. She only wanted to spy on us.
Although I didn't suggest it, my two BDs in their 20's deactivated their accounts after I had done so. I think its becoming less popular - certainly here in the UK where I heard it is net losing 100,000 people a month. People are realising things like those described by One Life One CHance.
SD 14 has 1800 friends and she asked them all to meet her at a London railway station - that was the post that DH demanded she delete which led her to unfriend him. Of course she can't know a fraction of that number, and there are likely to be a fair few paedophiles among them, I'm sure.

I love and hate FB. I know that it is kind of a violation for employers to look on there before they hire but it is reality. Which means we have to watch what we do on face book and that is what a lot of kids and people don't get. I commented on a thread on face boke about it and said the same thing. While it is right or wrong this is something that they are doing and we need to be mindful of it and not poet crap that will get us in trouble. I got blasted that it is a violation and wrong and they should be able to post whatever the crap they want. A lot of them were grown adults!!! :jawdrop:

I have face book to keep in touch with my family as we are scattered all over the place. I must have taught my kids good manners as they don't post anything bad and never have so far. One thing I can say about my skids bm is that she is very strict about fb and other crap like that so they don't even get on much either. They don't even ask to get on while here. I am friends with them and they are hardly ever on let alone post much.

I wish my SDs BM was like yours. Ours posts absolutely anything including dangerous and offensive stuff, graphic sexual comments etc quite inappropriate for ANYONE to put on a public social network, let alone a 14 year old. She is going to regret it, because she is getting a reputation as a slut among her real friends, not that she keeps friends for long. Now that she has unfriended my DH, God only knows what vile rubbish goes on. But her mother doesn't seem to care.

Believe it or not, Fakebook was the catalyst for my SD and I ending our relationship. Short story. I raised her but in her family on the side, she put her BM and MIL and not me. It pissed me off, we got into a huge fight and then she told me she just used me for the money anyway. Don't count Fakebook out. I think people act just the way they are. They can say and do anything they want without consequences. Drop her from your life, don't worry about it, she's not your kid and she's just trying to hurt you. Take back your power and do not be a victim! Take care hon.

Yeah, I deleted all SO's family and friends from mine. They act as they are all in middle school with all the crazy (and mostly made up drama). I've seen those same things, funny really, hide they got a new car but post publicly about horribly inappropriate things. One thing I have to wonder if dh/SO is on theirs don't they know we can see it too. I have just chosen not to care or look anymore.

Facebook is just way for my SD's, their mom and my MIL to try to hurt me. One SD, 20, has an entirely false life on FB (I'm not her "friend" so I can only see her posts from my H's account) and my younger SD, 19, has blocked me from seeing nearly all her photos and posts since she pledged my sorority as a legacy (a sorority she would not be in if we hadn't paid for rush and I hadn't listed her as a legacy because of her poor HS grades). My MIL has posted holiday photos from EX's home (but none from ours) for two consecutive years...makes me SO excited about the upcoming holidays. These are girls to whom I have been very good and for whom I've done tons of nice things. We recently went to counseling to try to "help" the 20 year old find her direction in life. Within 15 minutes, it turned into a "blame dad's marriage" (of 3 years) for all my personality issues and call him a deadbeat because he doesn't pay for "enough." My husband is a public school teacher and we pay for health insurance, a car, car insurance, a cell phone, plus paid for 2 years of college for the oldest, despite the fact that both girls have trust funds for college and their mom is independently wealthy and hasn't had even a parttime job in over two years. We also paid for the housing deposit and orientation at college for the youngest and bought nearly everything she needed for her dorm room, but that "doesn't count." It doesn't seem to matter that Ex destroyed my H's self esteem and then left because she "wasn't happy" and still isn't and tries to constantly undermine him and our marriage. My MIL still wants to maintain a relationship with her, buy her birthday and Christmas gifts, visit her when they are in town, etc., all "for the sake of the girls" who are now grown. I feel like I live in the twilight zone sometimes, with my H justifying the bad behaviors because they "don't mean to hurt me."

My two oldest are in college, trust me employers DO look at all this stuff. On Perfectson's very first day of law school they were lectured on this, basically "go ahead, post pics of yourself drunk or stoned, than do all this hard work in law school only to get out and not be able to get a job at any firms". Plus, it's a character issue. So, my kids' facebooks are pretty vanilla.