I previously read your post regarding your sd15. This kid is screaming out, desperate, absolutely begging for someone to MAKE HER live within boundaries and rules. You need to advise your DH that allowing her to get her way, is not what she actually wants. She wants a parent. Needs one. And is trying to push him into being one.

House rules need to be applied. No TV, nothing to eat or drink until a shower is taken, with soap applied to all surfaces of the body, shampoo and conditioner must be used. Clean clothes must be put on (bag the dirty ones for her to take home to her mothers). She must sleep within her room. If she is found asleep in the living room, TV privleges are revoked. If food or drink is found within her bedroom or the living room TV privileges are revoked.

No more snack foods. All food in the house is healthy. No soda, no koolaid, no cupcakes. All snack foods brought into the house are either a) fruit or b) prepackaged and contain less than 15g of carbohydrates per serving. She gets 3 a day. She is required to eat a healthy breakfast, lunch and dinner. One snack between B and L another between L and D and one between dinner and bedtime. A set bedtime must be made and enforced.

Pick a weekend physical activity, biking, martial arts, walking, gardening, swimming etc. Every weekend she is there you and your DH do this activity and she MUST accompany you and participate. If your DH asks this should be required, hand him this to read.

Data from the 2011 National Diabetes Fact Sheet (released Jan. 26, 2011)
Total prevalence of diabetes
Total: 25.8 million children and adults in the United States—8.3% of the population—have diabetes.

Diagnosed: 18.8 million people

Undiagnosed: 7.0 million people

Prediabetes: 79 million people*

New Cases: 1.9 million new cases of diabetes are diagnosed in people aged 20 years and older in 2010.

* In contrast to the 2007 National Diabetes Fact Sheet, which used fasting glucose data to estimate undiagnosed diabetes and prediabetes, the 2011 National Diabetes Fact Sheet uses both fasting glucose and A1C levels to derive estimates for undiagnosed diabetes and prediabetes. These tests were chosen because they are most frequently used in clinical practice.

Under 20 years of age

•215,000, or 0.26% of all people in this age group have diabetes
•About 1 in every 400 children and adolescents has type 1 diabetes
Age 20 years or older

•25.6 million, or 11.3% of all people in this age group have diabetes
Age 65 years or older

•10.9 million, or 26.9% of all people in this age group have diabetes
Men

•13.0 million, or 11.8% of all men aged 20 years or older have diabetes
Women

•12.6 million, or 10.8% of all women aged 20 years or older have diabetes
Race and ethnic differences in prevalence of diagnosed diabetes
After adjusting for population age differences, 2007-2009 national survey data for people diagnosed with diabetes, aged 20 years or older include the following prevalence by race/ethnicity:

•7.1% of non-Hispanic whites
•8.4% of Asian Americans
•12.6% of non-Hispanic blacks
•11.8% of Hispanics
Among Hispanics rates were:

•7.6% for Cubans
•13.3% for Mexican Americans
•13.8% for Puerto Ricans.
Morbidity and Mortality
•In 2007, diabetes was listed as the underlying cause on 71,382 death certificates and was listed as a contributing factor on an additional 160,022 death certificates. This means that diabetes contributed to a total of 231,404 deaths.
Complications
Heart disease and stroke

•In 2004, heart disease was noted on 68% of diabetes-related death certificates among people aged 65 years or older.
•In 2004, stroke was noted on 16% of diabetes-related death certificates among people aged 65 years or older.
•Adults with diabetes have heart disease death rates about 2 to 4 times higher than adults without diabetes.
•The risk for stroke is 2 to 4 times higher among people with diabetes.
High blood pressure

•In 2005-2008, of adults aged 20 years or older with self-reported diabetes, 67% had blood pressure greater than or equal to 140/90 mmHg or used prescription medications for hypertension.
Blindness

•Diabetes is the leading cause of new cases of blindness among adults aged 20–74 years.
•In 2005-2008, 4.2 million (28.5%) people with diabetes aged 40 years or older had diabetic retinopathy, and of these, almost 0.7 million (4.4% of those with diabetes) had advanced diabetic retinopathy that could lead to severe vision loss.
Kidney disease

•Diabetes is the leading cause of kidney failure, accounting for 44% of new cases in 2008.
•In 2008, 48,374 people with diabetes began treatment for end-stage kidney disease in the United States.
•In 2008, a total of 202,290 people with end-stage kidney disease due to diabetes were living on chronic dialysis or with a kidney transplant in the United States.
Nervous system disease (Neuropathy)

•About 60% to 70% of people with diabetes have mild to severe forms of nervous system damage.
Amputation

•More than 60% of nontraumatic lower-limb amputations occur in people with diabetes.
•In 2006, about 65,700 nontraumatic lower-limb amputations were performed in people with diabetes.
Cost of Diabetes
•$174 billion: Total costs of diagnosed diabetes in the United States in 2007
•$116 billion for direct medical costs
•$58 billion for indirect costs (disability, work loss, premature mortality)
After adjusting for population age and sex differences, average medical expenditures among people with diagnosed diabetes were 2.3 times higher than what expenditures would be in the absence of diabetes.

The American Diabetes Association has created a Diabetes Cost Calculator that takes the national cost of diabetes data and provides estimates at the state and congressional district level.

Factoring in the additional costs of undiagnosed diabetes, prediabetes, and gestational diabetes brings the total cost of diabetes in the United States in 2007 to $218 billion.

•$18 billion for people with undiagnosed diabetes
•$25 billion for American adults with prediabetes
•$623 million for gestational diabetes
For Additional Information
These stastics and additional information can be found in the National Diabetes Fact Sheet, 2011, the most recent comprehensive assessment of the impact of diabetes in the United States, jointly produced by the CDC, NIH, ADA, and other organizations.

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No, I don't think so. SD is pretty and I see her as a self-centered snob because all her friends tell her how wonderful and pretty she is. Her ego is way too big.

My BFs daughter is 17 and very beautiful, it doesn't make it easier for me. Especially when she has bigger boobs than me, it just isn't fair...LOL

Don't know...my SD isn't exactly gorgeous but she isn't ugly either...pretty neutral I'd say....PROBLEM is..she does look exactly like her mom...mini replica-THAT makes it tough for both my bf and I sometimes.

My kids are very good looking boys-my youngest does look mostly like his dad though but my ex for being an ahole wasn't a bad looking guy...whereas his ex was nothing impressive at all.

IDK? My ss is not ugly; however his hygiene is not exactly spectacular. He is also very small for his age-he just turned 13 but could easily pass for 9. He is the shortest person in his entire middle school except for one boy who is disabled and his legs are deformed.

i actually think it might make is worse if he was some good looking, popular kid-hen I'd have to wonder what was wrong with me that I saw negative things when I looked at him.