got an email from ss12's teacher. The email acct is dh's name and he doesnt even use it-I've used it for years. SS12's school has it from back when I was engaged and emailed them to get on the online grade system (about 3 years ago). so teach emails and says that he has been trying to get ahold of a parent to let them know that ss is failing two classes and not doing his work and his behavior is unacceptable. Said he sent home a grade sheet with him over a week ago for bm to sign so she is aware of his grades and he never got it back. So i tell dh this yesterday. Said, "You probably ought to call bm-maybe she never even got it". Well, he didn't call her yesterday.
So today-I just can't stand this man's email going unanswered-it was rude to ignore him so I emailed back and said who I was and that I would pass the message along to dh who would check with bm. Also told him my theory on why ss does so poorly and told him if he sent a list of current assignements every ow that we would make sure he got his work done. I also told him how bright ss was and that we knew he was capable of the work. He emailed back today and agreed with what I said 100%-he also said that he ended up sending ss to the office today because he was disruptive and disrespectful. And then later ss said he didn't have his meds (adhd meds).
So I tell dh this a little while ago-I think i got a grunt in response. That was it. I just dont understand it, people. If one of my kids was in the principals office i would be calling them asap and lighting their ass on fire. In fact, i would be in a state of anxiety until I found out all the facts and addressed it with them.
In fact, if one of the other kids ended up in the principals office-my dh would call the school and find out what was going on and would light their ass on fire himself. He would not hesitate to address any issue with them. But I dont get this thing with ss-why does he avoid issues and problems? Can someone tell me? Because he really cant. I tried to bring this up a few weeks ago to which his response was that it was hard to be engaged with ss because he didnt live here. I tried to remind dh that he, himself, just moved home a few weeks ago and that had never stopped him from being engaged with the other kids. He got defensive and said, "thanks for making me feel like a bad father". Should I try and "remind" him again to call ss/bm to address this? i know I should mind my own business, but dang what the heck is wrong with his parents? why would they not make him do his homework and want to address that with him? or address that his behavior is poor and he is getting sent to the principal's office?