What would you do?
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We just received a copy of SS12's report card from BM. He is failing 2 major subjects and at this point would have to have all A's the rest of the year to pass. I don't see that happening!! My concern is BM is not punishing SS for the bad grades and they only seem to be getting worse. When she does try to punish him, he threatens to come live with us. And she doesn't want that to happen because all of her CS would be gone because SD9 would follow fast!! Has anyone had this problem and how would you approach BM concerning his grades??
As SS' father, it's your
As SS' father, it's your DH's job to discuss this with BM. You should definitely keep the report card copy as documentation if you ever go to court with BM in the future, and your DH should get in touch with the school to see how he can work with them to get SS to improve his grades. When he comes over to your house, you can both sit him down and let him know the consequences of his getting bad grades, i.e. taking away computer/tv privileges, mp3 privileges, etc.
Also, maybe he's got other issues going on that are affecting his grades. Maybe DH could try talking to him in a casual way to see how he's doing. DH should also talk to the school to see if maybe he can get the school psychiatrist to talk to SS. If he doesn't have joint legal custody then this is also something he should talk about with his attorney (getting SS help from the school psychiatrist) to see if there's a way the courts could make BM get SS help from the school psychiatrist.