I just don't get an adult child Bio or step who is going on with their own life want to have the braindead idea that they can just dictate and stir up sh%$ in their parents lives
I was a single parent for 16 years after my first marriage. I knew I needed to make my son's life stable. He suffered a severe injury to his eye and had 11 surgeries and a 12th that finally took his eye in 2006.It would have been unfair to bring a man into this
I married my current DH in 2003, my son was a Senior in HS and his daughter lived with her father. She was 20 and had a long term BF and they were building a brand new Condo that we donated money for part of their downpayment. My husband was a good friend in HS and we hae known each other for 30 years.
SD only calls her father when she needs help with car or wanted us to meet latest BF which was often. She always called, said she was on her way an bringing her friend, did EVER ask if it was a good time. Once I remember the house was destroyed as we were having hardwood floors refinished so furniture and crap was everywhere. DH always acted as if it was no big deal!. Now she has met this guy in July and already getting married in October! 3 years ago, she met some guy online in NC, went up there, married him and then came back, stopped by, told her Dad and then took off back to NC. That lasted less than 2 months. She came back in the middle of the night because that stranger she married woke he in the middle of the night trying to choke her!. We paid for her divorce from that one.
If you read my Bridzilla post, you will know whats happened in the last week. She at first said she wanted her SD to give her away, then she said that both DH and stepfather. BM called us 2 weeks ago upset because SD wanted to take a car away from her MOM that SD had already given to her Mom to drive and give it to this latest F to drive. I never said anything but her father sided with BM and I agreed that it was wrong. The problem is he will take a United front with BM but I am now the cause of him "losing his daughter"
He said he is not going to the wedding and I know I will get the blame for this NO matter what
This whole situation is a lose-lose for me no matter what. BM has always been great to me. The first thing DH did was stated he smelled a Rat and that this was BM's doing but I dont feel that way at all.