Crazy BM.....help.
Quick background: Dating fiance for 3 years now and from the beginning his ex has made my life hell. Kids are now 6 and 8. His ex is a recovering drug addict who has been clean for a year (so she says) but is on methadone. Shes 31 lives with her parents, no car, job, drivers license. doesnt pay child support.
She gets the kids every other weekend but we gave them to her for a week after the kids got out of school. Her and I got into an argument about how much time she is going to see them over the summer/her being a dead beat mom/my role in her kids life..ect... It didnt go good or end pretty.
Situation: Went to the skids baseball game and the little girl 
ran up to say hi to her dad and didnt even acknowlege me. This is very uncommon. I am the first to get hugs and hi's. I got nothing. Her mother has obviously "talked shit" I dont know how to handle this situation..
Im feeling hurt, i do more for those kids than she does and they just turn their back on me. What should i do?
What a tough situation! I
What a tough situation! I feel for you. I think the best thing you can do is continue to SHOW this little girl how you feel about her and love her and eventually the words that come from mom will pass away as BS if that's what's going on. Actions speak louder than words, and with precious little ones, time is love. Be with her, do what she loves to do and I'll bet she will come around. It won't be long before she'll realize that her mom is not being nice, don't you think?
Good luck...would love to hear if you are able to turn this around soon!
PS: Hey, maybe it was just a one-time situation where the little girl was distracted or having "a day" and you won't have to worry! Hopefully...
Scott
Sadly, there isn't much you
Sadly, there isn't much you can do.... as the poster above me said, show her how you feel.
The more stable, loving and "normal" you are, the crazier BM will be.... I'm on year 4 of all of this and she's crazier by the day. Sometimes the skids won't hug me when she's around but I try not to take it personal; they're mildly brainwashed and they're only little kids. They love their mom no matter what and even if she is a psycho she's still their mom.
Next time you have your SD, just tell her how much you love her and care about her...
Good luck!
That is the hard part about
That is the hard part about being a step parent. I was there for my SD's when BM was "having a hard time" and "trying to find herself" as well. BM has since stepped-up and it is almost as if I dont even exist. And I think whats worse is that, instead of being greatful that her daughters had a positive female to help Dad take care of them, she is nasty towards me and tries to convince the kids that I am "bad".
The above posters are right. We dont care for our kids or stepkids for reward or recognition. As much as it hurts that we are taken for granted the reality is, we have to push on. Put aside the hurt feelings and continue to do what we have always done or as much as the children will allow with the hopes that they will see how much we care for them as they grow.