Teenage nightmare
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Hi I am a new step mom and am at wit's end with mty step daughter.She refuses to do chores and will not listen to thangs i say.Her dad is away alot due to his job and she just moved her several months ago from another state.She was in a bad liveing environment liveing with her sister before she came here and her mother died when she was 5.We are looking to get her into counsling but meanwhile it seems i'm wicked step mom i have asked her to clean her room for a week so finally i got really sturn so she runs crying to daddy.I woke this morning her dad had cleaned the room truely not the lesson i intended.What can i do she will not listen she is doing bad in school her dad spoils her than leaves for a week to work I am fed up what can i do?
Hi Juizz - Welcome! You and
Hi Juizz - Welcome!
You and DH need to get on the same page regarding his daughter. You two really need to have a heart to heart talk about EVERYTHING.
But before I can give more advice, I need to know a few things...
For example...
1. How long ago did DH and BM divorce?
2. How did she die? You said SD was 5. Thats very young to lose her mom. Why did SD go live with her sister instead of her father, since she was only 5? Why didn't he take her then?
3. You said her sister's living environment was "bad". It would be helpful if you could describe that a little.
4. How long have you and DH been together?
5. How long ago did you bring her into your home?
Your SD may only be doing "what she knows". She also may be dealing with conflicting emotions about where she is.
A little more info would help us all, I think.
Thanks! Welcome! It can be done you know. My SD lives with me, and my DH travels for months at a time. SD and her mom have a very strained relationship... so...you can make a difference in this girl's life. It just won't be easy for either of you!
*** A rainbow just threw up on me... and now I'm sh*tting glitter! ***
Ms julzz Hi well Dh did not
Ms julzz Hi well Dh did not divorce BM he is a widow she died of asthma complacations and she went to live with her sister because he is a truck driver and i guess he felt at the time till she was older she would be better off with other woman idk..the living environment was bas sister was mentally and physically abusive and brother was even sexuall abusive to her.and me and Dh have been together for 5 yrs i just met his daughter for the 1st time last summer she stayed with us for a month.and she has been her less than 6 months.Hope this helps Thanks
Ms julzz As we have what i
Ms julzz As we have what i thought was a heart to heart but It is not working he has a diffrent way of dealing with things for instance he cleaned the room for her so she would not have to do it..