Last night sd10 comes home from her biomum early or rather yet again deciding she is doing what she wants. My boyfriend and i were't expecting her home we were happily downing some cocktails enjoying the end of the silly season with one or our friends in the back yard.

We have usualy had full custody of her and she has been visiting her mums every second weekend anyways since i have started to give her some chores around the house she has decided that she wants to live at her mums half the time. hahaha go for it you won't last a week. We are supposedly trialing this process over the school holidays. So far to date sd10 hasn't lasted 3 nights over there and is basiclly house surfing the second she isn't getting what she wants.

Back to last night SD calls my boyfriend and begs him to come and pick her up despite her having 4 nights to go at hers mums house. SD pleads with him to picker up because she is at the pub for an engagement party and all the adults are drinking and she is bored. My boyfriend says no i can't pick u up which mind u is the first time in his life he hasn't rescued her. I find this terribly amusing because almost everytime bio mum is supposed to drop her off she calls and says she can't because she had to many drinks.

Birth grandmother offers to drop her off so we except. 5 minutes after sd10 gets home i notice she gets in a bad mood because we have a friend over and we arn't changing our plans because sd10 has decided to come home early. GO MY PARTNER! Sd10 then decides that she wants ride to her frieds house it's getting dark mind you so i say no it's to late. SD10 then decides she wants a friend to sleep over which i agree to because she hasn't had a friend over in a while. She calls her friend who isn't allowed to come over. The the attitude begins. She starts complaing that she can't do anything and sulking because she isn't getting the attention that she expected after escaping her mums house. After she sulked in front of my guest offering her bitchy comments in our adult conversation every now and again my partner asked her what is wrong with you? she had no answer she then said she was tired and i said ok well finish your dinner and got to bed. She the started saying no i'm not going to bed make me. I don't care what you say i'm not going to bed. I was embarassed that she behaved like that let alone in front of my guest.

My awesome guest offers to do the dishes so we can have a talk to sd10. My partner trys for 20 minutes to find out what is wrong. I'm thinking stuff this just send her to bed let her think about what she has done and pick it up tomorrow. but no no sd10 hasn't been punished before this is all new. My question is this how the hell do you raise children without disapline? what would you do if your sd started behaving like a spoilt bitch in front of your guests?