DH's custody order states that BM is to pay 1/2 of ALL medical bills along with medications. She is to provide health insurance for children. She is to "actively participate" in counseling with both children. She is to be supervised AT ALL TIMES WHILE BOYS ARE IN HER CUSTODY.

She continues to break these court orders and blames it all on ME the SM. It is my fault she cannot keep a job as a nurse and pay for 1/2 of bills. It is my fault that she cannot participate in couseling because she will have to pay a $20 co-pay.
It is my fault that she does not have insurance on the boys (actually I did have a little hand in that - She went to our local social services office to get madicaid on herself and the boys. She told the social worker that her husband had left her and the boys with nothing and he left the country, not just the state the entire United States! Then was told she had to show proof that she attempted to locate the father so she went back and told them that he had remarried, without her kknowledge, and then died. In our state, NC, when you recieve medicaid on a child the child's school is informed. This was they make sure that all the correct insurance info is on file at the school and if your child recieves and "special" classes -which ours do- then the schools can bill the state for a small amount of the cost for teaching the child -this helps to pay part of teacher's salary-. The school sent a letter home (to me and living DH)asking us to update school records with the medicaid info. I then call the social service office to inform them there has been some mistake. I was told how BM was getting midicaid on both boys and herslf along with food stamps because BF was dead. I was then asked to provide a copy of my husband's death certificate to their office since BM cannot get a copy of it. I explained that my husband the BF was still living. The BM is now in the process of being charged with fraud.

She does not think that the court order with the supervised visitation appliesn to her when she thinks I or BF will be around. She takes the children to school alone - per the schools. She spends the entire weekend alone with the boys - no supervisor within earshot. Today DH and I decided to lunch. Not even worring about BM and boys, we pull into the same resturant they are at. We PLAINLY see BM in car with boys and no one else. They pulled in right behind us so they cannot say that a supervisor was in restroom or something to that nature. We did not want to argue with BM so we told the boys we love them, see them at 5:30 (our court ordered exchange time).

Every time that we call our already paid lawyer with BM breaking court order once again he just says, "Make a note of it so we have everything to present to the judge at one time. Make sure you are writting down everything including the dates and if possible the time."

In addition to taking these notes, what else can we be doing???? We do not have the money to hire anyone else at this time. Our lawyer is wanting to wait and see what if anything happens with the fraud charges with state before we go any futher. The longer we wait the less faith we have that the system will do anything. I feel like the judge will look at us and say that we knew what was going on and we continued to let it happen therefore he will not do anything to BM.

Sorry this is soooo long. ANY AND ALL ADVICE TIPS POINTERS ETC IS GREATLY APPRECIATED!!!!! THANK YOU FOR YOUR TIME