My story is long but I will try and cut to the chase. My DH previous wife passed away 10 years ago leaving behind 3 sons. I meet my DH 8 years ago and we have been married for 7. The oldest SS is now 25 and hates the ground I walk on. Just yesterday he told my DH that he should have never remarried and that he had never been there for him. Now here is the truth, my DH gives this ADULT everything, just this weekend he replaced his battery, put #30 in gas and bought him some cigs. MEanwhile, my SS is sitting on his butt since Feb.1st not even looking for a job. My DH has helped with rent, his power bill is under our name and his cable. My DH is crushed by all the hateful things my SS says to him. He only starts this crap when things are going bad for him and he tries to bring everyone around him down and blame them for everything. When things are going good for him then things are okay. Well, he is about to get kicked out of his apartment b/c we can't keep paying his bills and ours. We still have 3 children in the house and in my opinion their needs come first. He has come home 4 times before and I told me DH that it would not happen again. I feel bad inside for putting my SH in the middle but when is enough, enough. He don't appreciate the things we do for him and tells us we do nothing for him, it's unbelievable. Am I doing the right thing by putting my foot down with me DH. My SS only creates problems when he is here and I'm tired of supporting a 25 lazy adult who wants to blame his father for his bad choices in life.