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I just found out that BM is definately going to treatment for 30 days and we have skids the entire time, She didnt ask she told us. SHe rules. Im so pissed! SHe gets a vacation at some rehab and i get all the work. I wanna go to a rehab! Man i work 2 jobs and take care of house and she works no jobs and has a damn nervous break down............what up with that!!!!!!!!
ya you got that right
She is always having a problem..poor poor me pour me another. Its driving me to the edge..thanks for feed back.
Well...
Sounds like YOUR HUBBY is going to be in for a rough thirty days, huh?!
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ANNE 8102 | GEORGIA
pretty much
now we have to figure out where to take skids during the day. We had a sitter lined up for "our" normal days, but now that's changed. Not to mention the extra $$. I could spit nails!
If I were your dh, I would
If I were your dh, I would ask for the CS back for that month that you are the sole providers. If she is going to be in rehab, then she wont need the money to feed the skids and stuff. I would remind her that if it was ANYONE else she was asking to do this, she would most likely offer those people money to watch her children.
and TELL HER its so that you can pay a sitter to watch the skids while you all are at work and she is on a vaca. Make sure she writes the check out to you guys. The courts deem when a NCP pays additional to the CS that its a "gift".. this check should be considered a "gift" from her to you guys for caring for her children during her "issues"
Eventually we'll be in the
Eventually we'll be in the same boat -- just matter of time until BM house is foreclosed & she leaves town for better prospects. Swins will be blaming me b.c. I work & have $$ & would never ever let that happen to me/my& BD. I never put BM down in front of them or talk myself up -- I just say "two wrongs don't make a right". Swins think I created BM's financial ruin, how untrue!! I never met BF until 1 yr after they divorced, she got close to $750,000 five years ago & blew it all w/o even paying property taxes for 4 years, and hasn't worked in 15 years. When she got her settlement money I was green hearing about her summer beach houses, vacations to S. Pacific, home improvements (hot tub, white leather furniture, etc.) but knew she was making mistakes w/$ by blowing it all and told DH "she'll be broke in 5 years". I was right but end result is swins w/us until she "gets on her feet" & swins will resent me. Its not fair.
Is this her first break down?
Is she manic depressive or something?
Nervous break down from what though? I mean if its a chemical embalance then it is something she cant really help, other then seeking treatment.
Some people with a mental dosorder cant work( if truely sever..like almost shock treatment stuff).
There has to be something behind this thats making her feel this way, I mean I am not sticking up for her believe me, if she can truely work and raise kids then she needs to, but no one asks for a mental illness ya know.
It is frusterating I know because we as the step parent feel as though we take on the whole job of B.M when she should be well capeable of parenting, is this like her first break down or repeated situation?
Maybe you and B.D need to raise the kids?If she is very severe ya know.
I cant judge her to say if she would be unfit mentally to parent but obviously it is something that is going on with her in her life.
" Life is like a jar or Jalapeno peppers, what you
do today could burn your a*s tomorrow."
I wanna go to rehab too
Do they have 12 step programs for living with two 13 year olds?
Addicted to Punishment Anonymous?
Let's see. 30 days in a place where my meals are prepared, I get therapy all day, go to craft class, and eat oreos, coffee, cigarettes and donuts?
Hmmm...can I go to a Biggest Loser Camp for APA instead? Then I'll lose 30 pounds without the smoking coffee donuts oreos...
and still have therapy and a nice quiet room to myself
"Om Tare Tutare Ture Mama Ayurpunye Jnana Putin Kuru Svaha"
~Sita Tara Mantra
me too
yes i would love to go away for 30 days and not work, have meals prepared, laundry done, nature walks and talk about my feelings.
She as far as i know has no mental disorder. SHe is fine when things go her way. SHe has energy and time to go shopping in NYC, go to concerts, partys,etc. She is sick when she has to be a parent.
She usually gets cold/flu/bronchitis/shingles/scurvy/etc when she has to have skids, or the famous one is a funeral. I cant even imagine anyone that she knows is still alive!!! Seriously she has been to at least 15 funerals in the past 2 years!!
I just dont have sympathy for this woman!!
My SD's BM does Funerals TOO!
She is an administrative nurse and goes to all "her" patient's funerals. She doesn't visit patients often, she sets up their initial visit, and checks back in now and then to make sure they're ok. So they aren't really "her" patients, they are the patients of the nurse that takes care of them on a daily basis. However...she has been to so many of "her patients" funerals, which always seem to be on her nights with SD, that I'm starting to wonder if she's the angel of death!
Also, when BM cancels and SD asks to come a different day, BM either has "plans" or seems to be taking classes or working all the time.
"Om Tare Tutare Ture Mama Ayurpunye Jnana Putin Kuru Svaha"
~Sita Tara Mantra
Strange isnt it
You would think they would give up custody ...but no way . Bm here would never think of giving up the $$$$.
Seems like the only time she wants to be a parent is when there is a holiday or someplace she can show up with skids and look like mother of the year.
I could puke!
SD's BM does THAT one too
She will vaguely ask for an extra weekend day with SD, but be secretive as to why. So if we have plans already, DH says no. Then we will hear through her sister or her husband that it is an 80th b-day party for one of SD's great Aunts. So we scramble to try to allow SD to go to that. Then BM will tell everyone at the party what a jerk DH is, how he wasn't going to let SD go and she had to fight him for her (the fight NEVER occurred- she just didn't ask soon enough or let him know how important it was.) Once DH got a thank you note from one of her sisters telling him how nice it was for him to change his mind and "allow" SD to come.
The funny thing is now BM doesn't even ask. If there's something on a weekend SD's not there, she doesn't rsvp or show. She does this because her sister has befriended me, and she is trying to punish her for that as well as control whether or not they invite me. So if she never RSVPs there won't be an opportunity for her sister to say, "Well, BM isn't coming and I would really like you there."
"Om Tare Tutare Ture Mama Ayurpunye Jnana Putin Kuru Svaha"
~Sita Tara Mantra
Dog Lover I love that one --
Dog Lover I love that one -- BM going to funerals. We've heard that "last minute excuse" so many times & had to keep swins bc its ethical thing to do. I always want to ask: what's the person's name & where's the viewing. But a smart girl like me doesn't ask a dumb question like that to a liar.
You got that one right
you cant reason with an unreasonable person. BM here is quite the con artist. I cant compete with her!
I was giving the bennifit of doubt, what a loser!
Well, I guess her mental illness is not wanting to parent except for when it is convenient for her. I thought she may really have a REAL mental illness( was tring to give the bennifit of doubt here ).
Well, I would pissed off to.
" Life is like a jar or Jalapeno peppers, what you
do today could burn your a*s tomorrow."
Hey Dog Lover !!
Im stepwitch, pleased to meet you !! Ok, Im trying to catch up here, does she have custody? If so, shouldn't custody be given to yall? Obviously she's not equipped to be a responsible parent or at least thats how Im reading this. I know its not a crime to be mentally challenged, but a vacation from the kids to a rehab?? THAT IS THE FUNNIEST DAMN THING I HAVE HEARD ALL DAY!!! Why didn't I think of that? Make the best of it !! The worst thing that could happen is that the skids will love you.
Stepwitch
Thank you Disney for portraying a positive image on all stepmothers!!!!
joint custody
they have a 4 day on/off rotation. Which I have gotten use to after 3 years. In fact I like it. Gives me 4 days to do things around the house, have time with BF, and relax a bit. Dont get me wrong I have had them much longer than 4 days at a time in the past. I done 2 weeks and a bit longer depending on what Bm has going on. Also SS13 is great he helps around the house and is pleasant to be around. SD8 is a different story. She whines rather than speaks and generally has some type of problem. BM and she are very much alike..gimme gimme gimme whine whine whine. So after these 30 days i dont think ill have much hair on my head. Although SD has been better than she usually is so far.
BM gave her BF her bank card to give to my BF for the month. CS is deposited into that account . She said he can have all of it untill she gets back. So thats amazing.
Im just very angry with her . If she comes out of that joint and wants to be a mom. That would be great. super. But she has done so much damage to me and my family that im not sure i can forgive or trust her.
We have a club called Rehab here in Vegas
Tell your Dh you need to go to Rehab in Vegas.