Part 1( total time including marrigae of this relationship is 7 yrs)
~I'm to the point to where I feel like ending my marriage.
~I have dealt with alienation for 5.5 years and not sure if I can take much more.
~My husband is a sweet loving man, been so good to me, better than anyone, but when his kids act up and refuse to accept me and changes he reacts badly because he can't handle them not wanting to be here.
~The BM has helped them not like me, nor ever accepted me.
~She has never helped them accept new things/changes nor me.
~They did like me for awhile then it stopped. ~I went from being cool, to phony and fake. (Age 8 and 11at the time) mmmm,
~Bm starting changing times with my DH and his time with the kids. If we were running late the youngest girl would start rubbing her tummy and saying she doesn’t feel good and say to her dad to hurry back to her moms. SO he would, instead of saying we are on vacation and I will do my best to you both back safely.
~Dh tells me he made her think she got her way, so in turn he could have the kids any time he wanted. But this was wrong because I feel that there were no boundaries and then she still had control of him like she did when they were married.
~Dh’s ex was controlling of him when they were married! Hated his parents, his friends, she told him numerously that if he did not stop his relationship with family and friends that she would take his girls and move away and he would never see them( his kids).
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Just to clarify, I am not the other woman. My DH was divorced from his ex for 6 yrs B4 me! Get this: She was having an affair with Dh best friends BIL, her frnds brother. Then a few years she dumps this guy then goes with her best friend’s ex husband, her BF’s BIL! Then has boyfriends galore! But Dh cant have one woman in his life since the divorce?
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So my dilemma is: I love my DH with all my heart.
But my stress level is going bad, and crying and feeling hurt.
~The kids basically said the only way it would be better that if he divorced me, that would be the only fix.
~They have made up lies about me, then try to get my DH and to fight, and he thinks they won’t lie, well he has found out differently!
~There is so much more…I’m at my wits end.
~In process of finding a consoler that deals with alienation, will find out on Wednesday.
~My DH is hurting and can’t sleep….
~Doesn’t want to lose his kids but doesn’t want to lose me too.
~It is not fair to him to choose.
~Nor fair to me to be punished for being in love with him.