Troublemaker
My SS is a huge troublemaker. He loves to get others in trouble and while he takes great pleasure in annoying others he is the first person to tattletale on others. He does this at home and at school. Anyway this weekend he spent the night with my inlaws. They treat him like he is a baby and he acts like one when he is with them. He started a huge argument a while back because he made up this whole story about something my son had done to him. It caused a giant fight with me and my MIL because she believed him and then he told her that he lied. We had a talk with him about lying and also that if there is a problem between the kids that he needs to tell his father or me and not involve the grandparents.Well he has done it again and I am furious. Once again they believed him and confronted my husband. My ss has gone as far as to tell them once that we wouldnt let him eat beakfast. They believed that also. He has also told us that BM didnt give him any food for an entire weekend and that babysitters(who are my friends) wouldn't feed him. Every time he gets caught in the lie and then admits that he made it up.Right now Im so mad I feel like waking him up and shaking him. Guess I'll go to bed, calm down, and deal with his lying butt in the morning.
how can they look you in the face and lie?
My 10yr old SS does the same thing. I know he gets it from his mom because she is a compulsive liar. I have been catching SS in lies for the past 2 months first it was with his homework, then doing chores, now it is missing days from school, homework and chores. He looked right at DH and I and bold faced lied to us 5x in a row and I was like "come on we know the truth, just tell us" but he kept lying. finally he told the truth, but by then I was so furious I wanted to just hit him. We have grounded SS, but that does not work, because of course the grounding does not carry over to BM, and SS still keeps lying. I am so feed up right now I told DH that I do not want to see SS or be around him and I am not talking to him. I absolutely will not tolerate lying in my house, I have told SS and DH this plenty of times and this was the last straw, so until I feel like I can trust SS again he is to be in his room at all times unless he is going to the bathroom, doing chores or leaving the house for school.
My Theory Is
My theory is that compulsive lying is an illness. People that lie habitually create their own reality and believe themselves...that's why they're so convincing because it's their own truth. My SD is a compulsive liar as is her BM so they get along perfectly. I don't understand that kind of life or how compulsive liars can sleep at night but I also think they must not have the abilibty to feel compassion or empathy for others or else they wouldn't do it. Even if given a 100 opportunities to tell the truth, SD wouldn't do it no matter how great the reward. I don't know how to deal with it, solve it or understand it. My mom used to threaten with me. She made me so paranoid that she was stalking my every move, or was going to call every parent on the planet to check on my whereabouts, I was scared to death to lie. Seems to me, when kids know their stories are constantly being checked on and there's less chance to get away with it, the less they try. A suggestion for what it's worth.
"Bitter? Table for ONE..."
My ss does the same thing
at his grandparents house, Gabby. He always gets my daughter in trouble for things she never does and they treat him like he's a golden child and her like crap...and they believe every word he says. I have just decided that my daughter and I will not go over there anymore until both kids are treated equally and they start listening to BOTH sides of the story. My fiancee's mom is kind of a control freak and likes to pull guilt trips on my BF and I see right through them! And I have told him many times he needs to stand up for himself..he's 30 for godsakes