2 seconds after the separation...

So I had a feeling EX would not waste any time.

I have an old match.com username (no profile) which I used to help a friend catch a cheating boyfriend. So I logged in and took a quick search for men in my area.

THERE IS DH! Brand new profile, listing himself as separated, naming his 2 children and our dog, and stating that he lives alone (I AM NOT EVEN OUT YET) enjoys a glass of wine after a long day at work (HA, he has not had a steady job in 2 years.) He put that he is looked for women 23-40 in our area.

I HATE HIM. I NEVER WANT TO LOOK AT THAT PIECE OF SHIT AGAIN.

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Like I said, burn that

Like I said, burn that bridge. He's looking for his next victim. And you are no longer his victim.

enjoys a glass of wine after

enjoys a glass of wine after a long day at work

More like, "Enjoys doing drugs/popping pills, after a long day of lounging/sleeping on the couch. Looking for any woman who will support my ass."

What a loser.

Hopefully, he will play his games on Match.com and leave you alone.

Yep!

NEXT!!!!!

Ajanie... take that feeling

Ajanie... take that feeling and remember how it feels. Remember to listen to those alarm bells when the you meet a guy that "forgets his wallet"... "gets fired for reasons that are beyond his control...repeatedly"... "has issues that need fixing".

I know it's hard. I had an EXDH and an EX BF that cheated on me.. the BF also had a drug problem. I was not upset in the least at losing them in the end, but was angry that they lied to me. I know it's a weird reaction... but the dishonesty was what really got to me.

I've been telling you all along that you are worth so much and you need a partner that lifts you up... you deserve it and I hope you realize that!

So you logged in to look for

So you logged in to look for men and saw that he was looking for women?

Neither of them wasted any

Neither of them wasted any time.

I would rather he met someone

I would rather he met someone at a bar and went back to her house, then splash his single status online before I even leave. No one ever said he can't do what he wants, but to take the time and energy to create a profile, that is hurtful to me.

Im sorry but when i posted

Im sorry but when i posted you didnt say it was to look for him it said you went on there and did a search for men in your area. That is why I responded like that. My apologies.

TBH, there is a difference

TBH, there is a difference between actively posting a profile on a dating site than casually taking a look at what might be out there.

It's kind of like looking at ads for a car or a horse you may be in the market for... vs posting on craigslist that you are actively in search of said car.

I took it as her searching

I took it as her searching men in her area with the specific purpose of seeing if her stbex had a profile. NOT that she was looking for a new man. I could be wrong.

AJ, if you ever waiver and consider going back to this butthead, remember this!! So sorry, hon. {{{{{HUGS}}}}}

It could be read either way..

It could be read either way.. but I agree if she had reason to believe he might be out searching for a replacement... I probably would have looked too..lol

Her first comment about she

Her first comment about she had a feeling he wouldn't waste time kind of infers she was looking to see if he'd already been actively posting... well it inferred it for me, anyway

That's how I found out my ex

That's how I found out my ex was already looking. I hacked his email to find that, not only was he on Match, he was on eHarmony and some scuzzy web site for those seeking sex-only hookups. :sick: :sick: :sick:

My ex was looking before our

My ex was looking before our marriage ended.
He posted on some very alternative sites, I suspect for some time.

Needless to say I printed out some stuff along with found emails to his "girlfriend," left them on the kitchen counter in the morning and wrote, "This marriage is done!" and went to work.

I just didn't want to talk to him any more.

My co-worker's husband posted on dating sites before he was out of the house too. All while demanding she stay in the marriage.

He's an addict, AJanie.

He's an addict, AJanie. Addicts cannot admit that they are at fault about anything at all, and that is how they work. Do not let him or his actions hurt you. You are taking the right steps and doing the next right things. Lift your head, straighten your crown and move forward like the queen you are.

I logged in to see if he was

I logged in to see if he was already out looking for my replacement. I do not have an active match profile, no.

Wonder if they will find a

Wonder if they will find a cowboy or cowgirl. LOL

This is an amazing idea!

Hobbies: farting, ass scratching, bondage porn.

Hahahahahahahaha....now that

Hahahahahahahaha....now that is a great idea!!!! I'm sure you have a picture of him somewhere drunk off his ass. Make that his profile picture.

Like this idea!

Please do

Please do this....pleeeeaaaaassssse }:)

Creative genious = LOVE it!

Creative genious = LOVE it! Plus, it would be a public service! However, if he's got the app wouldn't he know immediately about any changes?

The paranoia is strong with me... lol

I'll be happy to mess with

I'll be happy to mess with him via my mom's Match. I'll await further instruction.

bwahahahaa hahahahaaaaaa me

bwahahahaa hahahahaaaaaa me too

My abusive XBF was on Match

My abusive XBF was on Match while we were together - I found out because I was out with some girlfriends one night at a restaurant in the next town. AXBF came strolling in with another woman. It was very crowded and I guess they didn't feel like waiting out the wait, and so they left. He didn't see me, my friends didn't see him, but I saw him.

I used to keep his books and I had many of his passwords. He was stupid and used only two or three for everything, so it didn't take me long to get into his Match.com account. He had been hooking up for a long, long time. Sometimes it was when we were fighting and other times it was when things were fine. I was stunned.

I took my time and got all kinds of screen shots and evidence and whatnot. When we broke up a few weeks later, after I helped him plan his mother's funeral and hosted the shiva at MY HOUSE, he would often text me boo boo sad texts. I ignored them for a while and then one day, I just unleashed this fury of text message responses - each and every one included a screen shot of one of the profiles of the women he cheated on me with.

This is freaking genius...

This is freaking genius... and slightly terrifying LOL I don't think I'd have the self control to pull this off. I'd just lose it the moment I saw everything. Kudos to you

I am a vengeful bitch. I

I am a vengeful bitch. I knew I was going to exit the relationship and I also knew that I wanted to burn him - so I lied in wait for a bit, collected my evidence and then BAM!!

Same asshole, six months later shows up at my house on my birthday while I was on the phone with DH - who I had JUST reconnected with a few weeks before. When I asked AXBF why he was at my house, he said that it was my birthday and he wanted to "celebrate it the way we always did."

My response? "nah, I'm good, want me to send you your Match.com broads? Maybe one of them would like to get laid?" then I slammed the door in his face and went back to my phone call.

Where can I submit my

Where can I submit my application to join your fan club?! Because you completely ROCK!

With awe and much respect,

-StepUltimate

2 for 2, you're on a roll!

He couldn't just keep quiet

He couldn't just keep quiet until I move out this weekend I guess. Whatever. Final nail in the coffin.

(((HUGS))) that is pretty

(((HUGS))) that is pretty crappy

Oh... and I found out my DH

Oh... and I found out my DH had been cheating on me because there was a saved "chat conversation" on MY computer. He used mine when his wasn't working.

I learned so much about myself. How I was cheating on him... how he had to support me financially. How I was such a bitter nag to him.

I mean, every single thing he was telling this chick was a bald faced LIE.

He cheated on my when he went back to supposedly deal with a real estate transaction. When I found out about the cheating I jumped on the chance to cut his dependent butt loose. Oh.. you want freedom? Well, bucko, have at it.. divorce no problem.

I paid for the divorce myself! Got the sobby email from him that he got the papers served on XMAS eve... I really didn't plan it that way, just when the law firm had it done. It wasn't planned at all. But, love that he was trying to make it seem like I was the cause of the split. um.. nope. Dude, you made that choice!

He will make this split all

He will make this split all my fault to anyone who asks.

I wouldn't worry about that

I wouldn't worry about that too much. Believe me, most sensible people know who the real problem is in a relationship. I'm not saying that there aren't two sides to every story... but while I am not perfect either... I certainly wasn't out sleeping around on my EX.. but he did just that.

he is scum. So that means the

he is scum. So that means the only people that are gonna listen to him or also scum. You can't care with scum thinks about you.

Anyone who believes him is no

Anyone who believes him is no friend of yours anyway!

I just needed to vent when I

I just needed to vent when I found that. I am calm now and not going to feed into it or engage him.

After today... 2 more damn days. Then I haul ass out of there.

It's going to be very

It's going to be very exciting to have your own little place. Focus on that.

^^^ THIS ^^^ Focus on the

^^^ THIS ^^^

Focus on the positive aspects of the break up. I'll get all motivational poster on you... Don't look back, you're not going that way!"

You are going to enjoy being

You are going to enjoy being on your own so much! There is absolutely NOTHING more freeing than getting out of steplife, especially if you're in steplife with someone who doesn't put as much, if not more, effort towards making it work than you do. You are going to have a nice apartment to yourself where you can decorate how you want, nobody will be touching your stuff or making a mess or hell, even making noise that you don't want to be around, it'll be all yours and you can blast music and start the healing process.

Good luck on your upcoming journey and try to enjoy. I know breakups are rough, but keep looking at the bright side and remind yourself all the things you didn't like about him. You will feel lonely and you will think that lonliness means you've made the wrong choice, but it doesn't. It's just part of the process.

xoxox

Ajanie I am sorry. I know

Ajanie I am sorry.

I know this hurts. Before you found Mr. Matchfibber's profile everything else hurt. It's gonna hurt. Feeling the sadness, pissed off'ness, eyeball roll'ness, shockness is something believe it or not, you are going thru with dignity. We have to feel these feelings.

Walk thru them, don't look back. .

A wise person once said "once your out DONT go back"

Congrats on your new place too. There will be days and nights were it will be silent. ENJOY it...this time is YOUR time.

What a d bag. Good riddance!

You should get a burner phone, make him a fake tinder app and set up dates all over town.

AJ, that is the a$$hole you

AJ, that is the a$$hole you are leaving. That's the real lying, using man that is no longer part of your present or future.

"Parasite seeks unending

"Parasite seeks unending array of hosts"

Fav tunes:
"Just a Gigolo"
"If you've got the money, honey"
"I gotta woman-who's good to me"

AH - screen shots Hon and use

AH - screen shots Hon and use it if you have to...... this will make you get over him quicker...

now you have 2 options, either you hack his profile and tell the ladies the truth or you change your profile and play with him..... wait till he tells you what a bitch his Ex is and then do little stabs hehehehe like that glass of wine after work, how big is it.... crate or bottle..... you look like you are popping pills etc... I would so mess with him

Good. Use that anger to

Good. Use that anger to abandon any hope of somehow having a civil relationship with this abuser. This guy is such a slag.

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