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Sweet T's picture

What do you do when everything someone does just pi$$es you off..also taking into effect that they are the type of person who just doesn't take criticism, tactful or otherwise we'll.

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wicked_by_proxy's picture

I know how that feels...when it was happening, I really lowered myself and made "over her head" passive aggressive comments to her so I could get others to notice her pathetic attitude...that is REALLY not me but I was trying to show her the error of her ways LOL...

She was always "poor me" and doing anything to get attention :(...so, I had a talk with myself...I am not this way, being so petty, and I don't ever want to be this way. I decided that this person was not really pissing me off....I was just reacting in a pissed off way, that was all.

So, I became true to myself and my values again and I may not have liked what she did or said, but I just kept responding based on my values. I dropped the emotion, just was not necessary, and carried on. After a while, I realized that she never really had a hold on me, I merely had given her MY control. She and I actually get along okay now. I can tell you that I am grateful for the lesson I learned as it has come in handy throughout the years that followed Smile

Acratopotes's picture

I simply ignore them and make sure I don't have to deal with them...

if it's in the office and I have to deal with them, I keep it short and sweet and to the point.

secret's picture

Being in HR management, we do the "sh!t-sandwich".

"Thanks for working so hard on this project, I really appreciate your efforts. Having read the report, perhaps you have a suggestion on how we can better adapt this section for our purposes? By the way, I like the way you brought the information together, it's very clear."

Sometimes, though, it doesn't matter how you say it... they'll hear "you did it wrong" or "you're a bad person" instead of "this is how it/you can improve for this purpose". That's not necessarily you or what you've said, that's sometimes because they're projecting their self-realizations onto you and putting a target on their own back.

Acratopotes's picture

o/t @ secret - why og dear dog why does HR people not have the faintest idea about finances and financial statements, why can't they give you the correct information, why the eff can't they determined their budgets correctly,

I mean how effing difficult is it to say, I'm looking into these courses for trainees next year.. please budget XXX
and any other course that comes up is simply not given.. it's so easy to determine next years salaries and calculate leave days ... dammit for the past 27 years CPI fluctuated between 6.5-7% thus your pay role increase would be a solid 7% CTC then everything is covered, you know medical aid fund increases 15% per year.. why the eff can't you do your budget correctly?

I hate HR people, I think they all went to study HR because their IQ was way to low to qualify to study anything else..

secret's picture

LOL Acra - should I consider this as you saying I'm stupid? }:)

I work in HR management... for me, right now, it means I manage a case load of people, I manage their benefits and administer their pay. Easy peasy cushy job. It's more of a labour relations position than a typical workforce management hr position, to be honest.

I know what you're talking about though... in my last job, it's what I did. We took the yearly days worked... took off 15 days for annual leave... 10 days for anticipated sick/personal days... and 10 days of anticipated all-staff training (it was all internal), giving us the anticipated number of work days each year per employee, which allowed me to make projections on requirements from staffing/scheduling, to equipment required for the anticipated staff, legal costs, benefit costs, etc... now I didn't have to actually calculate the required budget, but at the very least I provided the accounting department with the broken down projections on what should be needed, by head count, to meet operational requirements and SLA. Luckily, we didn't really do one-off training courses... we mostly did department training courses, where everyone in the section was in training at the same time, or over a few sessions if we couldn't close down our lines. Quite often the projections allowed us to be under budget, because it was based on the theory of everything that could go wrong would... and often we didn't actually have to hire based on past turn over trends, or we didn't need to hire seasonal staff because the training was scheduled properly, annual leave was spaced out properly, and people didn't take all their sick days, which meant the SLA was within target and we didn't need to necessarily increase staff for busier periods.

There were of course fluctuations nobody could have foreseen, such as a decision from one of the major companies we dealt with that spurred a ridiculous influx of calls and then our call centre was screwed for a few days... dropping our SLA for a while... but we always were able to bring it back up. It's very rare that we went over budget, during the 6ish years I was handling it. When we did, it was usually due to a higher turnover rate than expected and we were forced to either take a hit on SLA (which was a requirement due to the organization being mandated by a Crown Corporation, if we dipped too far below too often we could face a shut down) and hope for the best, or we could hire extra staff and be out that money.

Another thing, too - anything HR submitted HAD to be approved by senior management... our Director was a major c u next tuesday, and didn't seem to understand the basic concept of having to account for all the extra stuff... An employee hired on at 35K a year would actually cost closer to 50k a year when you considered benefits, rrsp matching, salary increase, etc... I know what you mean about people being too stupid to take these things into consideration when providing a breakdown of anticipated expenses. Luckily, our accounting took care of it and generally ignored what the Director said, because they were paid to manage the funds, not fudge the funds due to management ignorance. Biggrin

Acratopotes's picture

on Mars - you have one HR department, they deal with training, salaries, benefits everything.. even IR issues with a panel of other people in other departments.

I've never had an HR department who could do their own budget and forecast, not in all 25 years of working... oh wait there was that one lady for 5 years who knew exactly how to handle it... it was me, HR and finance, very small company lol......

I'm just tired of their stupidity... how difficult is it... cost to company = bank paid out, third party payments and tax paid over,,,, next years forecast cost to company +7%...

secret's picture

lol, I hear you. Here, HR and Accounting are often separated, depending on the size of the company (and other factors).

It should be simple, not sure why they're not able to do it. Maybe on Mars the HR program is more of a Labour Relations program...? Here, workforce management and accounting is generally rolled into the HR program...