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CS is officially over!

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Wed, 07/26/2017 - 7:10am

Even though YSD graduated in May CS was still being pulled from DH's check and placed in a reserve account. Looks like what DH owed got disbursed yesterday to BM (Finally!) and he's getting a refund for the rest.

I remember 5 years ago (when things first got bad with skids) and thinking that there was no way I was going to make it 5 years, assuming things would be better once they aged out and DH didn't have that tie (CS) to BM.

Things are definitely A LOT better. The skids did up their crazy for a bit last month but DH didn't feed into it and I think that helped. YSD hasn't been back over since she just randomly showed up last time. DH hasn't talked to OSD since she had her latest baby 2 weeks ago.

DH, BS and I are leaving tomorrow for a camping trip so I think the timing is perfect Smile

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Submitted by MineAndYours on Wed, 07/26/2017 - 7:17am

That's so awesome for you! CS for us with SD20 is finished next summer when she graduates (or not) from college. YSD is 16..so three more years plus any secondary education to go!

People always say that BM will be around no matter what because of the Skids but it's very nice to see the scenario I'm hoping for actually does happen!

Cheers!

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Wed, 07/26/2017 - 7:48am

Thankfully DH doesn't deal with BM. Besides for her hateful texting out of the blue or when we forget to update our cell phone block, I don't think he's had any communication with her in a few years.

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Submitted by hereiam on Wed, 07/26/2017 - 8:04am

People always say that BM will be around no matter what because of the Skids

DH has had no contact with BM since SD26 was 18. SD got married, emancipating herself and ending child support. DH has absolutely nothing to say to BM and does not want to hear anything she might want to say to him. He told her years before CS ended, that when it did end, he would never need to have anything to do with her again.

BM did try to call once, a few years after SD got married, and she found out that DH had meant what he said. It's a matter of what your DH will and will not put up with.

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Wed, 07/26/2017 - 8:21am

DH hasn't talked to BM in years (that I know of) so I don't see a reason for them to have anything to say to each other now. I think they last time they talked was probably 3 years ago when she called asking for bail $ for OSD. Blum 3

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Submitted by Just J on Wed, 07/26/2017 - 11:27am

My DH has not talked to BM in years either. Once she couldn't hound DH for money anymore, she had no use for him. We did see her at SD's college graduation last year, but I said hi to her and went to chase down my son before he got lost in the crowd, and DH only had a five second conversation with her. It's been wonderful having her completely out of our lives the past five years, after having to hear from her dumb @ss so often for so long!

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Submitted by WalkOnBy on Wed, 07/26/2017 - 12:58pm

I haven't said more than three sentences to Asshat since our oldest DD26 graduated from high school.

We have had three high school and three college graduations, one wedding and one grandbaby born since 2009.

Two of those sentences were when I ran into him in the hospital.

No need for any conversation, digital or otherwise, after a kid ages out.

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Wed, 07/26/2017 - 7:47am

Thanks!

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Wed, 07/26/2017 - 7:46am

Thanks!

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Submitted by Acratopotes on Wed, 07/26/2017 - 7:28am

whoot hoo - buy bubbly!!!!

but it's not to say they will not still think DH is an ATM Wink

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Wed, 07/26/2017 - 7:43am

They can think all they want but I don't think DH will be handing over any money. I actually think he's tired of their shit. The stuff that YSD and OSD pulled not too long ago. I think he is just tired of it. He is starting to realize they are just like BM.

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Submitted by hereiam on Wed, 07/26/2017 - 8:08am

It's like being able to breath again, isn't it?

Congratulations!

I will say, that for me, it was not just about the money. As long as the kids are minors, you just don't ever know what's around the corner and our DH's are responsible for them and their actions. When the kids don't live with you and you have absolutely no control over them and what they are doing, it's nice to be set free from that legal responsibility.

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Submitted by DaizyDuke on Wed, 07/26/2017 - 8:16am

Yippee!!!! So happy for your guys! DH and I are dreaming of the day and it's closing in fast! DH can't wait to tell BM2 to go fuck herself and block her number from ringing on his phone ever again!! tick tock!

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Submitted by SMto2 on Wed, 07/26/2017 - 10:19am

"People always say that BM will be around no matter what because of the Skids"

This has not been true in my case, either. My DH's CS ended almost 3 years ago. He's heard from BM I think twice, both by text. Once was to know if youngest SS was still on our insurance (yes, until age 26, thank you, Mr. Obama) and then to tell him what oldest SS would like for his birthday. BM is nothing more than an occasional passing thought these days.

Congratulations to you!!!! It is wonderful beyond belief those first few months that you get to keep that CS money. In my case, the best part is, unfortunately for my DH's ex, after the CS gravy train ended, all his years of working his @ss off at our law firm paid off and he (and I) both became substantial owners in our law firm and got a HA UUUUGGGEEE increase in pay!! It makes me smile every time I think of that!!! ha ha ha!

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Wed, 07/26/2017 - 11:23am

YAY!! Sadly CS still drags on here well past 18. SD is 18.75 and supposedly going to community college to be a probation officer. Thank GOD for Fakebook!!!

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Submitted by Cover1W on Wed, 07/26/2017 - 11:55am

Good for you!

DH was just complaining about CS again, it comes up every summer because his work contracts cycle around summer and he's usually got a month or two of no pay.

He has 50/50 with BM and pays support - it's not really that much but it makes a dent because he's still paying off divorce debt (that SHE incurred) so it rubs salt in that wound.

He seems to think that she can tell DSHS to "turn off" the CS requirement for a couple months. he also wants to discuss lowering his payment since it's 50/50. I tried to point out that it's court ordered and not up to her to lower w/out going to court, or at least filing.

Then he jumped all over me about that. I just remained quiet since I know it's very emotional for him. He said his piece, then I calmly said, "I think I will not discuss CS with you any longer...it's between you and BM and has nothing to do with me. If you don't want my opinion or input then don't discuss it with me." He agreed so I'm hoping I'm out of that discussion.

He's got 6.5 years left, until SD11 graduates high school or until the summer before she starts college. I don't think his payments lower once SD13 ages out (4.5 years).

...But then the CS stipulates that both parents will split the cost of college. Yep, that nasty little college tuition clause is there. There's no possible way he'll be able to meet that requirement.