Has your DH lied to your skid?
So what is the biggest lie your DH as told your skid to….
1). Try to make skid like him/his house, better than BM?
2). Try to make skid think skid is gods gift to people.
I have tons of examples but will only give one answer per each…
1). When SS was about 10-11, DH told SS that if he would come live with DH, he would not have to go to school anymore.
2). Ss was maybe a little older and we all went to gym one day. DH convinced SS that he could bench press 150lb and (SS was a twig and probably weighed about 50lb at that time.) So DH “spotted” him. (held the weight so it would not fall). DH obviously held up all most of the 150lb but kept telling SS it was only SS holding all the weight. So SS was so excited. I told DH he should not have done that and he needs to tell SS the truth. DH got a little attitude with me and said he was just trying to make his “boy” happy. I was disengaged so I did not keep on him about it. But hindsight, I wish I would have stepped up more in THIS situation but we had not been dating too long.
Next day SS goes to school bragging to everyone about how much he could lift and some of the kids wanted proof so they found something that weighed like only 50lb and SS could not lift it. So of course SS gets called a liar and made fun of and gets into a scuffle. I felt really bad for SS.
Guess who told DH … I TOLD YOU SO!!! Yep…me. Lol. DH felt like a sh!t. As he should have.
Disclaimer…Weights and verbiage may not be right. This was 15ish years ago. lol
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lol! dh also lied to
lol! dh also lied to children about how there would be rules in the house.
the skids figured out they had their fathers balls wrapped around their little fingers quickly and saw him for the coward he was. bm would scream and hed cower and do what she wanted.
Number one seems like a
Number one seems like a really PAS move lol.
The weight thing is odd to do with a 15 year old. I mean I can understand a dad playing with his toddler and telling him how super strong he is.. but 15?
Total PAS move. lol. He
Total PAS move. lol. He would also tell him that the cat NEVER strayed from SS's door the whole time SS was gone. GAG.
I think SS was 11 ish when he did the weight thing.
I know right? SS apparently
I know right? SS apparently did not believe him since he never came to live with him until he was older. lol
I love my DH and he is a great man now, but sometimes I set back and think …WTF was I thinking back then?!! But I did not live with them so I had it a lot easier than most and was not around it all the time.
DH has told SD she can come
DH has told SD she can come live with us when she is older. I don't think he told her that to make her like it any more. I think he honestly believes it.
I think she likes our envoronment more because we in general are more laid back and do fun stuff. We (I) have more expendable cash. But SD isn't the kind of kid that can be bought (cheaply, in a good way). That is a thing i respect about her.
Like Lochness said. There
Like Lochness said. There are things that are sometimes said that may not be realistic. Or like Clever's situation where her DH said their would be rules... he may have meant it.. but had no clue how to make it happen.
That he's broke- instead of
That he's broke- instead of just telling them NO when they ask for $$.
That he's busy working- when really he just doesn't want to deal with them that day. I can kind of understand lying about it when he's just laying in bed and doesn't want to entertain them.
DH once told OSD that I love all the kids like my own. Even OSD called him out on that bullshit. And DH knew better!
My SO is pretty honest with
My SO is pretty honest with the kids. He really only lies when it comes to his feelings of BM but that's because it wouldn't be right for him to tell the truth.
My DH would lie and say he
My DH would lie and say he was working to get out of having to go to a function/ sporting event or whatever for the SS's. He would lie to BM about working when he actually had the day off so he could get some down time without the SS's.
And of course the ultimate lie was telling OSS and MSS how awesome they are. Making them believe the sun rose just for them. AND making them actually think he had money, when in reality I am the one who has the money.
That he's broke- instead of
That he's broke- instead of just telling them NO when they ask for $$.
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AND THIS!!! My DH did that all the time too. Drove me crazy.
It irks me so bad. What is he
It irks me so bad. What is he teaching his kids? Nothing!
My BS asks me for $. Depending on what it is I will give him the option to EARN the money. Or sometimes I will give him the money. But if I don't want to give him $ for whatever reason I tell him- NO. Nothing wrong with hearing No every now and then. It's good for them.
SO likes to tell Winona SD18
SO likes to tell Winona SD18 that she "you would have gotten that thing you really wanted, IF you had NOT done XYZ, or if you HAD done xyz...", even though he never intended to get her that thing in the first, second and third place. Really drives me up the wall.
Mostly SO withholds information, like where we are going etc, so that he doesn't have to hear their begging to go along, when it is an adult "date night", and they should really be told "hey, this is our time, and we need this time to be a stronger unit." He really just doesn't know how to express these things, maybe partly because he feels guilty.
When he tells the SK's that
When he tells the SK's that the $ he's giving them to fix their hoopty name-brand cars IS A LOAN AND WILL BE PAID BACK. He knows it's not true, and so do they. We never see a dime sent back. I'm talking hundreds of dollars (the last episode was actually in the 4 digit arena).
He also likes to puff them up and make them feel special just in general terms.
I think the biggest lie I can
I think the biggest lie I can think of is DH told the skids that GM's outdoor car just died, when in fact our two dogs (which the skids adored) and one of her dogs got to said cat and hurt it too bad, DH had to put it down
. The skids loved the cat, but also the dogs, and they just lost the cat, he felt like he was doing the right thing by not making them "lose" the dogs by being mad at them too.
I am disengaged from my adult
I am disengaged from my adult skids so I am not sure what his latest tall tales involve. However, he has a history of trying to make skids sad for him. Very sad sack. Makes it sound like there's nothing good or fun in his life. Then he hangs up the phone with them and he is all cheery. So weird. No wonder they never call.