Nope never have. I would be very entertained by it though.

Yep, she is the mother and that is why I must respect her.

SS30's BM and I have no contact as he was grown when I met DH. But my answer would be "Darn right - I wouldn't want ANYONE to think I produced that THING."

"then maybe you should be paying their child support."

"then why hasn't THEIR MOTHER done jack schitt for holidays or birthdays - for YEARS?"

"then why have you NEVER picked kaos up for your EOWE visitation?"

ETA - i have not actually responded, this is just ones that popped into my head IF she were to say that... thankfully i dont have any interaction with her.

When I got picked on in school, I would take the mean note someone wrote to me, fix the grammatical and spelling errors with a red pen, and give it back to them. I'm not the smartest person in the world but I did learn how to spell contractions and possessive pronouns in the 2nd grade. I still use these skills today. When my ex would write me little ugly notes, I just got out the red pen.

BM used to throw out "I am his mother " to DH, not me as if her being SS's mother was more important than DH being his father. Funny, she stopped when he started throwing back at her "then why don't you pay for your half his school tuition?" And you can substitute tuition with pretty much anything since she doesn't contribute at all. BM texted me last month and said SS was "ours" since I've "helped" raise him. I didn't respond to it because I don't need BM to tell me what I do and have done. I know. She knows. There isn't anything for her and I to talk about.

Medusa used that line whenever DH did something she didn't like. You know, like force her to follow the parenting plan.

when she stole BabyVoice from the house late at night and had to explain that to the Judge, she actually said, "well, she had a cold and I had to make sure she was okay. I AM her mother you know, and it's what any mother would do."

Judge replied, "no, madam, I don't think any mother would coerce her child to come out of the house late at night and then take off like a thief in the night."

but but but, SHE IS THE MOTHER!!!!

you know, the mother who hasn't laid eyes on her kids in 5 and a half years.

*eye roll*

Nope. BM knows I don't like her kids enough to be close enough to do anything motherly. }:)

LOL, oh I deal with a BM that feels she has to proclaim this ALL THE TIME. Not just to me but to my SO as well since being a dad in her eyes doesn't make him equal to her at all. It was more so in the beginning but she still does every now and then. I simply ignore her and laugh about it...To me it just shows her major sense of insecurity in thinking that I would a)try to replace her and b) do a better job at it than her! I have never once tried to replace her or even act like her daughter's mother and I don't want to be her daughter's mother. I really don't even want to be her daughter's step mother!

This sums it up exactly:

"I guess I just wish these women understood that the majority of stepmoms are fully, painfully aware that they are not the real mommy. The skids do not look or act like us. We spend too much money on kids who aren't even with us all that often, oh and lawyers (it would hurt less to open my car window and just fling a stack of money out on the highway). AND We are occasionally reminded that the kids are the product of the unprotected sex you had with *OUR* spouse. MINE. My husband. Your "baby daddy." But I do not emphasize that difference to her. Maybe I should?"

Ring, Ring
(glance down at cell phone; see it's Girhippo calling)
Me: Hello?
Girhippo: stony silence
Me: Hello??
Girhippo: (angrily) I thought this was his phone? I want to talk to MY kids!!
Me: Chef's out back right now with them, can I tell them you called?
Girhippo: (even more angrily still) I WANT TO TALK TO MY KIDS!!
Me: One moment please (put her on hold for approx. 8 seconds)
CLICK!

She actually wanted to tell the skids that mommykins miiiiiissssess her babies and that if they come home EARLY they'll have a biiiiiiiig surprise waiting for them.

This used to go on constantly when Chef had the skids on his time.

Yep... I got the "I am their mother" and also the "they are NONE of your business" on several occasions.

Usually, I would get the call from her because either the girls or their father asked me to step in and help fix an issue that the girls were having. Or, it was because I had an opinion about something to do with them.

I told the mother. I realize I am NOT their mother, but I am married to their father and as a result, I want to make sure they grow up happy, well adjusted and prepared for the world so they don't land on OUR couch and end up being a financial drain! I said, that makes them MY business.

I told the girls that i cared about both of them and wanted them to have the best start possible in life and that as long as I was married to their father, I would care what happened to them and by them.

I actually had one huge blowout with the mother after she almost caused her younger daughter to be held back in school for unexcused absences. I had documentation regarding a lot of DR's appts and wanted to make sure that none of those were causing the problem. Mama had a bad habit of keeping one of the girls out when she was bored. The girl was honors list but was about to be held back. I wrote a letter to the school and explained that we might be able to provide proof of the absences. Well, some lady at the school showed the email to the EX.. she called me in all her "how dare you interfere" glory.

I shot back "If you were a GOOD mother, the poor child wouldn't be in this position". Never had to deal with her again.. bliss.

I got that too, once she realized IDGAF she knocked it off. In my crazy BM's mind she thought I was just dreaming of being SD's mother, nothing could be further from the truth.

Thankfully I have a few thousand miles between me and BM. The last time I had a proper interaction with her I called the police in her. Since then I might have bumped into her in our old town once, maybe twice and said hello just to be polite.

After her constant attempts to ruin my relationship with my husband and sending me messages about them getting together or that he was a cheater and me never replying to a single message I think she got the message that I don't care. As it is right now I know I am not sd's mother but I sure as hell do a lot more mothering of the girl than the one phone call a week that BM can sometimes manage to make for a whole hour, though more recently it had only been about 40 mins. Well she does have a new baby now, so hopefully she had learnt something about being a mother in the last 9 years and can do better by this one than she has by sd.