WHAT HAVE I GOTTEN MYSELF INTO?!?!?
My SD9 has been wanting to do competitive cheer for some time now. Well her BM has not been cooperative. Her dad and I were concerned that if a competition fell on her mom's weekend she wouldn't get to go. Well her mom finally agreed this past Friday to let us take her to the competitions even if it is on her weekend.
What have I done? I need advise or just to hear other peoples experience with this. I have only seen the show on TV about competitive cheerleading and it frightens me. Are the other moms really that crazy? I met a couple of them last night and they seemed normal enough and I just love her coach. She has been taking gymnastics from her for about a year now. And this is a child that had been in dance/cheer (with another teacher) since she was 3. So I am not worried about her commitment. Although the cost does scare me a little bit.
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You just had to get involved
You just had to get involved didn't you..... now you will cry for ever mwhahahahahaha
SD wants to do cheer - oh goodie, talk to mum about it Hon... she says NO, well guess it's NO then...
and go on with life.....
see SD will get older and older and demand more and more, you can not say NO then... BM was clever she shifted her responsibilities onto your shoulders for life, and I guarantee you BM will not contribute a dime...
The only thing you can do now, is be crazy like all the other cheer mums and become a real cow....
Pity Lucay is not on here anymore, she's an experienced dance mum and could've helped you with this
The only thing you can do
The only thing you can do now, is be crazy like all the other cheer mums and become a real cow
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REALLY! I'm a cheer Mom and I'm not crazy nor am I a cow!!
all cheer mums says
}:) }:) }:) all cheer mums says that....
just joking woman, relax..... the only crazy ones are the ones with reality shows....
lol I don't do reality I
lol I don't do reality I rather rot my brain with booze hehe!!! You know the old fashion way!
Well if you talk to anyone in
Well if you talk to anyone in my family or my DH and they would tell you I'm crazy.
But I know its them that are crazy not me! }:)
We are not expecting BM to
We are not expecting BM to contribute anything. We just did not want her missing competitions and letting her teammates down. Her dad says she has to do a sport of some sort since it teaches them discipline and teamwork among other things.
Even though her BM has custody of her she is with us most of the time. She really is a good kid at this time. She minds well and doesn't give too much crap yet. I am actually a lot stricter with her than my DH, but she still prefers to be with me.
I guess this will just be a little crazier than I already have being a band (step) mom to my SS16.
I only do stuff for the kids since they are good to me. The second they become disrespectful I'm done. I have told my DH this. He actually got to taking it for granted that I would do things for his kids so I stopped for a few days. He apologized and things got better.
I truly lucked out in the DH and Skids department. All 3 are wonderful kids that have welcomed me into their lives.
All the more reason to make
All the more reason to make sure BM does not back out it's YOUR $.
I see some of the posters had bad experiences and it happens. Is she is an All Star Cheer or Rec Squad?
Good knowledgeable and trained coached are really important. At 9 she won't be doing any outrageous stunts, but if she sticks with depending on her spot and level of tumbling it gets scary. My dd is a flyer.
Her coach has been teaching
Her coach has been teaching cheer and gymnastics for over 20 yrs and the assistant coach is her daughter that was in competitive cheer/gymnastics herself.
The organization that we had to register with is USASF.
Awesome, trust me shit
Awesome, trust me shit happens my daughter broke her foot last year falling from a stunt in practice.
I tried to PM you some pictures, but they are pasting to big!!
The problem is that sometimes
The problem is that sometimes these girls will just sort of go "off script" and try to do stuff they are learning or have seen when and where they shouldn't. The fall that broke my SD's arm was at her HS practice.. with a girl coaching who was barely out of HS herself.
They took her by ambulance to the local hospital but they wouldn't admit her because they couldn't find a pulse in her hand.. so a 30K medflight was a result. At least in our case, the HS paid all her bills. But, she now has a frankenstein scar that runs the top and bottom of her forearm. She also has metal hardware in there and it hurts a lot still.. years later.
ith a girl coaching who was
ith a girl coaching who was barely out of HS herself.
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And there in itself was a problem. Trust me I've seen my daughter her stunt squad do some stupid shit outside of practice, like basket tosses on the boardwalk in Wildwood. I LOST my SHIT 10 times over and when the coach found out shit I was afraid of her after the ass reaming those girls got!!
They have these "life goals"
They have these "life goals" and want to instagram themselves doing their "cheer stuff" online. "oh look how cute I am in my pose".
If it had been about being an athelet or competing, I wouldn't have been so "down" on it. For her it was about some perverse bragging rights, the costume and the hairbows.
Ahhhh I get it!!!! My dd and
Ahhhh I get it!!!! My dd and her squad take pics and what not, but my kid has invested MANY MANY MANY years in tumbling classes and gymnastics. SHe's not in it for the cute poses and popularity contest lol.
She tells me that's what Football cheerleading is for lol
She just did it for a couple
She just did it for a couple of years.. never did tumbling as a kid or anything. She ended up being a flyer which really in her squad's criteria was just that she was one of the smaller and lighter girls. The problem was she actually did a growth spurt before her final year and became one of the taller kids and that was when she got injured. I think she just outgrew her position, but she was so in love with posting that she was a 'flyer" that they never changed her.
Her mom used to post how her daughter was "born to cheer" gag me MOTY.
In fact, the first thing mommy did when she blew into the pediatric emergency ward (after loudly proclaiming that the MOTHER was now here.... because we all know I wasn't the real mother right? haha) was to shoot daggers at my DH and tell him that she was NOT going to discuss the fact that my DH was right when he objected to her participation.. and that they would NOT be having a conversation about it being over due to the injury.
She actually ended up falsifying medical records a couple months later so the girl could go to another competition.. even though the DR still didn't want her to do cheer with her arm still healing. She was just so into being the mother of a shiny bauble.
That's insane, she put her
That's insane, she put her child in danger, NO COMP is that important.
My dd is a flyer and yes her height and weight have a lot to do with it, but she is very limber and has amazing balance. That being said I HATE when mothers glorify their daughters because they're flyers. I feel like yelling hey you dumb bitch if it wasn't for the bases there would be NO ONE to catch that flyer, and lets not forget about the back spot who keeps your kid in those stunts!! GRRRR
I wouldn't say my dd was born to cheer, I wasn't a cheerleader. I wasn't my thing, but when my dd started some of the coaches and Moms said she was a natural. Umm ok I wouldn't know, but as long as she wants to cheer I'll keep supporting her and footing the bill. It's up to her I am no way reliving my youth via her! Trust me if I was there is a lot worse things I'd be doing hehe!
We went through stuff with
We went through stuff with the younger step daughter. Her mom was the one who signed her up for cheer.. plus she was on the HS squad. That meant that during "season" my DH really didn't get much visitation because she always had other commitments or she had special practice sessions on the weekend.
I considered the competition cheer to be pretty much a waste of time. Their team was horrible. They would go to competitions and be the only squad in their category.. or maybe one or two other teams and they would always come in last (unless they were the only team... in which case they were first.. .and last). The lady that ran the organization would put all these peppy, fake posts about how excited she was that her girls got "grand supreme champion" at the latest money grab uh I mean competition. I knew that the girls were the only team in their category.. so she basically was just trying to put out a fake image that they were a success when in fact they were a suckfest. We went to a couple of competitions and they were not good. My YSD would end up forgetting her routine and get that deer in the headlights look as she wandered aimlessly on the floor. AND... she was one of the better girls on the team lol.
All she got out of it was the ability to post some "cute" pictures online.
Now, the HS squad? Well, the coach was not good and let the girls do all sorts of stunts that they weren't good enough to really do. Her HS career ended when she was dropped from a throw and had to be airlifted to the city hospital for a compound fracture of her arm.
I was a cheerleader in HS.. but I think they just try to push these girls to do stunts without proper supervision or training these days and there end up being a LOT of injuries.
My dd is 15 and has been
My dd is 15 and has been doing Comp Cheer for about 5 years now, and YES there are some bat $hit crazy Moms out there. I find that in all sports, but cheer and dance seem to bring out more crazy.
Feel them out you'll find ones that you can relate to and others that you know to stay FAR FAR FAR away from.
Here's the thing with Comp Cheer it is A LOT of parent dedication. Your SD is part of a squad and it's not like Football, baseball, ect where you can put another player in. Chances are that if BM rescinds on her agreement to let you take her on her weekends it will be a problem for the whole squad, each cheerleader has a role. Be it base, back spot flyer, one girl not there can mess up a whole stunt and the routine! The practices are grueling and a lot of work, learning the dance routine hitting every stunt. These girls become a family and depend on each other. Not to mention the travel and cost. I'd suggest your DH getting something in writing even an email with her consent. It is a very expensive sport and Id hate to see you invest all that $ and BM back out.
That being said it is an amazing sport and yes it is a sport. My dd did an essay on in last year. Have fun, let your SD have fun and enjoy the hours of COMP pounding music and make up lol
He has it in writing plus BM
He has it in writing plus BM normally doesn't go back if she tells us she is going to do something. Besides most of the time on her weekend she drops SD9 off at her Great Grandmothers and she stays there for the weekend. BM isn't around much that's why we have her most of the time.
I will enjoy it and I saw how
I will enjoy it and I saw how excited she was last night when I picked her up from practice. It makes me so happy to see her like that. When I first met her she was very shy and whiny. I nipped the whiny in the butt real quick. I don't deal well with that.
I too have a hard time with
I too have a hard time with the glamour and glitz of the comp cheer and the pageant stuff. My previous sitter for BS6 has her 6 year old in the competitive cheer AND also does pageants with her. BS6 and I actually went to one of her local pageants to see her. She is a sweet little 6 year, very well behaved etc and mom is a peach.. well hello, she was my daycare for BS6 the first 4 years of his life!
But I just couldn't get past these little girls with all this makeup and these frilly, fru fru dresses and HEELS and puffed up hair... it just seems so I don't know "sexual"??? to me...
My SIL has her two girls ages
My SIL has her two girls ages 6 and 9 in competitive cheer, this is their second year. They love it! SIL has mentioned a couple of kooky moms but I think she just steers clear of them. The gal who used to watch BS6 for me, also has her 6 year old daughter in competitive cheer (a different group than SILs girls) and she loves it too. They actually won the Nationals last year. However, there was a big to-do last year when the owner/operator got caught and charged with having sexual relations with a minor, who was one of his clients. :O He resigned and someone else took it over and like I said my friend's daughter's team won at Nationals so the whole debacle didn't really hurt the organization.
To me, it's a lot of traveling and expense...way more than I'd want to do with a full-time job, it seems like they are gone every weekend but whatever floats your boat I guess.