Not so happy Spring Break 2016 with SS
So with no discussion from my husband on this, he's decided he wants his son all of his spring break. He's on his way back know from picking him up now (2.5 hours away). Yay me! NOT. Here's the good part, husband is working all week, my son will be in school all week (his spring break is different than ss), and I'm dealing with a bad back and barely getting around. Sure...I totally don't mind ss being here all week!?! Ugh. WTH? Don't I have a say in this at all??
Husband says he wants his son here so that "he's not at his mom's work all week sitting around playing video games". Mmmm ok. So he'll now be doing that here instead? OK, makes total sense to me! SMH. And of course ss will be here, all others gone, and I have no say, I'm not "allowed" to discipline my ss or get on to him or ask him to go outside and play, etc. He has no friends here to play with, sucks! I've asked husband for years to go out with him to ride the bike around the neighborhood or walk the dogs or whatever so he can meet other kids his age, but nope, he still knows no one. This drives me insane. I know I shouldn't let it get to me but it does.
So my plan is to try to stay away from the house as much as possible. I have chiro appts. Now I'm going to try to make an appointment with a counselor (so I can vent), as well as get a pedicure, lunch w/friends, etc.
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So me, wanting to relax this
So me, wanting to relax this week, is now finding ways to stay away from my own home. Sad.
Exactly. That's my plan.
Exactly. That's my plan. Husband said if need be, ss could go w/me to my chiro appt. tomorrow and sit in the lobby. I said no, don't think so, I have no clue how long I'll be there and what all they plan on doing. SS can stay by himself at the house.
Husband's bedtime is normally
Husband's bedtime is normally 8:30 pm cause he works way early in a.m. So I assume the husband thinks I'll get ss ready for bed, tell him to stop playing video games, brush his teeth, and go to bed, etc.? SS has been here for only 2 hours, and has been in his room with the door closed, playing video games the entire time. Tell me again how husband didn't want his son to be with his mom at her work during spring break playing video games all day?? Geez.
You had no input to SS being
You had no input to SS being there so have no input when he is there.
Do not do a damn thing for the kid or your DH.
When Dh goes to bed at 8.30 remind him he needs to organise his son including all his meals for the following day.
Do not cook for any of them. Its DH's job to do that for his son and so he can damn well do his own meals as well.
Pretty simple really, bet he never pulls that shit again.
Oh I won't be cooking for
Oh I won't be cooking for anyone...I barely cook as it is. I guess he'll have to figure out something to feed himself when, if, he gets hungry. So my question is, when I leave tomorrow, and he's still asleep, should I wake him to tell him I left? Do I leave him a note? I know for sure he won't know what to think/do when he wakes up and no one is here (except play video games). And I'm pretty sure the DH will say something like "why didn't you let him know you'd be gone?" or something similar. DH husband's thinking is, "I work and make the money, you're at home, the least you could do is help me out while my son is here and I'm working to support you and your son. How hard can that be, it's the least you could do".
Oh, I am actively looking.
Oh, I am actively looking. Definitely need to get back out there.
I left at noon, he was still
I left at noon, he was still sleeping. I came home about 2:15 p.m. and he was just eating breakfast (a bowl of cereal) and sitting around in his underwear. I come into living room to work on resumes and job applications, he goes into his room. OK.