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Submitted by AtoZMom on Mon, 12/28/2015 - 10:00pm

So over 2 months ago I left DD. It's been a rough couple months... but I can finally see that he won't change no matter what...I'm more upset about leaving my SD5 then him....he has told me I can no longer see her as I left him and lied to get about loving her, I'm more upset about losing her then him...I truly to love her and it kills me that I won't see her on a daily basis anymore. ....
He has laid it down that I can only talk to him when it conserns our BD2 ...which is fine but I'm worried about the people he will date that will be around her....am I over reacting ????

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Submitted by fuckitall on Mon, 12/28/2015 - 11:05pm

OP you aren't over reacting. All those thought and feelings are likely to come up. In my relationship issues I have thought of leaving before and a huge negative is co-parenting. Bound to suck. I would start researching the way you want things to unfold in this situation and how to keep the best interests of your kid at the center. You can do it! Hugs.

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Submitted by stepinafrica on Mon, 12/28/2015 - 11:28pm

I don't plan on leaving my husband but if I ever did I would definitely take my kids with me. You definitely need to talk to lawyer to see what your chances are of being the custodial parent. He would probably be able to use this against you.

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Submitted by AtoZMom on Tue, 12/29/2015 - 6:08am

I should clarify I have custody of our daughter and my SD5 is with her mother as my ex is only allowed supervised visits as per child services (long story) but he will ... if he does everything child services asks get week for week with my daughter and his track record with girls he dates isn't the best and I don't want people coming in and out of their lives or being a bad influenice.

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Submitted by Disneyfan on Tue, 12/29/2015 - 9:41am

He can have a new chick there every month. There isn't a darn thing you can do about it.

You knew the type of man/father he was before you had a child with him. If he was good daddy material when you were together, you can't paint him as a monster now that you're divorcing

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Submitted by fuckitall on Tue, 12/29/2015 - 9:18am

^ exactly. Hence my suggesstion to research ways of friendly co-parenting and which expectations you should / shouldn't have

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Submitted by AtoZMom on Wed, 12/30/2015 - 5:00pm

He is a good father never said otherwise.... we already have a week for week agreement set...

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Submitted by hereiam on Wed, 12/30/2015 - 5:10pm

I'm worried about the people he will date that will be around her

If he is a good father, he won't allow anybody suspect to be around her. So, you didn't come out and say he's not a good father but the fact that you are questioning who he would have around her, is why people mentioned it.